You know exactly what I'm talking about: the cute guy in your history lecture or maybe the smooth talker you met at an off-campus party. You've barely talked to him but you've already got a crush. Sometimes you're not sure why because he doesn't even give you the time of day. A snapchat here. A quick hello there. And those annoying 3 am "are you up?" text messages.
News flash: he's just not that into you, and if he is than boy does he need to change his tactics. We've all been there, girls and guys alike, and it sucks. Not just because your feelings aren't being reciprocated, but he also doesn't have the guts to let you off the hook. And if he does let you off the hook it's by not replying to your messages and maybe even going as far as to ignore you in public. The moral of this tragic tale is that some people are too immature and can't do the respectful thing of telling you the truth. I don't know if it's because of this new "ghosting" fad or that dating in college just isn't how it use to be, but can we all agree that it needs to change.
I think the worst part of it all is that we blame ourselves. We think we're not good enough, or we've said something wrong. Some of us even go as far to try to change ourselves, which is completely ridiculous considering he wouldn't notice us if we smacked him in the face. So don't go shopping for a new outfit because you think he might like it; don't jump at the chance to hang out with him after he's ignored you all week. Instead, as hard as it may be, begin the journey of moving on and remind yourself that you deserve better.
I've seen what this kind of behavior has done to people and I know what it's done to me. There's that famous line from Perks of Being a Wallflower, "We accept the love we think we deserve", so start by thinking you deserve more. You shouldn't have to pry a response out of him or put in all the effort to hang out - he should want to. And if he doesn't then it's his loss. I know what you're probably thinking right about now. Yeah sure that's great and all but it's a lot harder than you think to just start demanding more for yourself. And you're absolutely right, but you've got to start sometime. You may have clicked on this article because you wanted to figure out whether he's into you or maybe you came to the realization that he's not. Well, I'm here to tell you that it doesn't matter. If he hasn't revealed his true intentions after all your efforts to figure it out, he needs to go and that time is now.
So confront him, delete his number, and move on. It's time to take the power back into your own hands. Yeah, he may not be that into you but honestly who cares because in the long run, you're going to hopefully look back and realize you weren't all that into him.