Maturity 101

Maturity 101

It's time to grow up.
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Let's cut to the chase here — it's time to grow up. The world has way too many people in it for everyone to be so immature. Here are a few tips and tricks for both the people who desperately need to grow up and for the people who need to teach someone who desperately needs to do so.


Choose who you surround yourself with

Stop surrounding yourself with people who make you miserable more than they make you happy.

Example: Don't let who you've been hanging out with regularly bring you down or make you act like anyone but yourself. Rather than sticking around and continuously trying to fit yourself into their mold, cut them out of your life. There are people out there who will love and appreciate you for you, and that's where you'll find happiness.


Choose your battles

You know those pesky little things you have to deal with that come up in every day life? Yeah, those aren't going anywhere. We are only human. We don't have the physical, mental or spiritual capacity to control every little thing at once and we certainly don't get to have everything go our way all the time. Ask yourself what really matters before you freak out about every little thing.

Example: Your roommate gets hot easily, but you're cold natured. Instead of nagging each other or passive aggressively changing the thermostat after your roommate goes to bed, just sleep with an extra blanket on your bed or sleep with socks on. There are bigger things to worry about.


Realize that you'll win some of those battles, but you'll lose some, too

Things will go well sometimes but other times, things won't work out so nicely. You have to realize that you win some and you lose some, and that's totally normal.


Realize if you can't change it, just accept it

There are some things in this world that are simply out of your control. Learn to be OK with that and learn to stop micromanaging.


If you can change it, though, change it

Some things in life, though, you actually can do something about. So do something about them. Stop complaining and change something. Being proactive is a lot more productive than being apathetic.

Example: If you're so unhappy about your grade in a class, here's a thought: Work harder. Put forth some effort and change your grade, don't just sit back and complain about it.


Stop playing victim

The world doesn't feel as sorry for you about every little thing as you seem to. Every single person in this world has his/her own mess to clean up and his/her own obstacles to get past. Stop pretending you're the only person with a lot going on and stop expecting everyone else to feel sorry for you all the time. Start counting your blessings and focusing on the positives, that's one way to make your issues seem significantly more bearable.

Example: You got a B on a test that you really thought you aced, so naturally, you're moping around like the world is crumbling at your feet. Do you honestly think that kid in your class on the verge of failing out of college is going to feel sorry for you? Or what about the person you went out with the night before the test (instead of studying)?


Get over it and move on

As if I haven't made this very clear yet: Things do not and will not always go your way. You can't change that, I can't change that, your mom can't change that, your friends can't change that. Dwelling on the things that don't turn out the way you want them to is poisonous. Move on – you'll make yourself miserable.


Focus on yourself more often

No, I'm not telling you to be selfish. I'm telling you to spend less time analyzing other people and picking them apart, but rather spend more time figuring out to better yourself. Don't fall into the comparison trap and don't fall into the habit of belittling other people to make yourself feel better.


Stop subtweeting and making Facebook posts as a dig to someone else

This is just about the most immature thing you could possibly do. Passive aggressiveness only pisses people off even more than confrontation does. If someone is bothering you enough, explain to them (calmly) that you're upset and work through the issue, or just keep quiet and move along with your life. Also, life hack: Don't say anything online that you wouldn't say to someone's face.

Example: If your roommates forgot to take the trash out or left their laundry in the dryer overnight, move along with your life. Don't stoop down to the level of those people who complain about every little thing online (read: publicly). Your roommates will find out and it will make them want to piss you off even more.


Stop trying to make things work that clearly don't work

If you just can't seem to mend a broken relationship or come to terms with something that has upset you, no matter how long or hard you've tried, just stop. I'm not saying to give up because you're lazy, I'm saying to surrender the stress of trying to fix something that clearly doesn't want or need to be fixed.

Example: If your long term friendship has been on a slippery slope for two years now, but you have several other people in your life that respect you and make friendship effortless, then maybe it's time to let go.


Respect other people's opinions

It's amazing to me that people don't understand this by now: Every person is entitled to his or her own opinion. Every person in this world has their own story, their own upbringing, their own beliefs and their own way of viewing the world and its issues. If you don't agree with that person's opinion about something, just shut up and move along. You have your opinion and other people have their own. If you expect people to respect your opinion, then you best respect theirs.

Example: You're the only conservative person in a classroom full of liberal people. You voice your opinion as to who should be the next president and you get yelled at by everyone in the room for your beliefs. But, when other people in the room voice their (opposite) opinions about who should be the next president, you sit there quietly. Why? Because they have the right to their own opinions and yelling at them for it being "wrong" is not the way to get them to change their minds.


Be nice to people

I mean really, it's not that hard to do. Pro tip: The nicer you are to people, the further you'll get in life and the more genuine relationships you'll have.


Let go and let God

By now, you should be able to gather that you simply cannot handle every aspect of life at once. Also, you can't expect other people to carry your burdens too because they all have their own burdens. You know who is more than willing and able to help, though? God. Let Him help you out.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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To Those Who Feel The Need To Tear Down Others, Take A Seat

You have no right to hurt others because you don’t agree with them.

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I recently wrote a super controversial article, which I'm honestly very proud of. In the comment section, there were plenty of people criticizing me because of what I believe in, mainly because they didn't believe in the same thing as I put out there.

I would just like everyone to know that the people that write for this amazing company are just that — people. They are real, they have opinions, and they have feelings. There is nothing different about them than you. Would you like someone commenting hate on your Facebook post or anything like that? No, no you wouldn't. When you comment rude things on something that someone worked long and hard on, you are just being rude and inconsiderate of their feelings.

If you just go to the comments to leave a rude comment, you can write it down on a piece of paper and throw it away. You're being a bully. These writers more than likely will go to the comment section, just like I did, and will be hurt by your arrogant, inappropriate comments.

Ever heard of if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.

If you don't agree with me that's fine, but that doesn't give you the right to deliberately go and try and tear me or anyone else down. You're just being rude and you have no reason to be, all I did was write an article on something I believe in.

Also, don't let anyone rude enough to do this tear you down or diminish your self-worth. There are people out there who are still kind and caring, don't listen to the negativity this world brings. Just keep doing what makes you happy, because in the end, that's all that really matters.

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