A Male's Guide To Female Birth Control

A Male's Guide To Female Birth Control

What the birth control pill is: facts and must-knows.
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"Birth control," "the pill," "that medication stuff that doesn’t make babies happen"… whatever you’ve always called it, this particular form of the female contraceptives is probably a mystery to you. Despite the fact that you most likely have relied on its magical powers on several crazy college nights, you might not know how it really works or if it really is working! Here is a short, but informative, list of some basic fun facts as well as must-knows before your next primal encounter.

The birth control pill is a small pill, obviously, commonly made up of two different kinds of hormones: estrogen and progestin (a synthetic form of progesterone). These are hormones that you have in your body too, just in much smaller amounts; women even have testosterone in their bodies. What the hormones ultimately do is prevent the egg from being released by the ovaries as well as making the mucus within the cervix thicker, which makes it harder for sperm to travel toward the egg. These two actions work together in an attempt to prevent the sperm from ever meeting the egg and thus preventing pregnancy.

Pregnancies can still occur with birth control. Yes…even though that’s its one and only job. The birth control pill must be taken properly, meaning it must be taken at the same exact time everyday. Or else, the chances of getting pregnant increase. According to Planned Parenthood’s article on Birth Control Pills, 1 in every 100 women each year will get pregnant despite having properly taken the pill while 9 in every 100 will become pregnant after not taking the pill as directed. So next time, ask if she’s been taking her pill properly before you find out the hard way…

Birth control isn’t just for having sex! Many women take birth control for a plethora of reasons. The pill regulates periods, so in other words her period comes on the same day of the week once each month for the same amount of days. This is super convenient because it’s not fun showing up to the beach and just getting your period whilst not having a tampon on hand. Other awesome things the pill does is help with acne, menstrual cramps, breast growth, PMS (premenstrual syndrome that includes depression) and much more.

An average single package of birth control consists of 28 pills. 21 of which contain the hormones and 7 of which are just placebo pills, which contain no hormones, nor any other medication. They are divided into sets of 4 weeks, one to be taken each day of the week at the same exact time. The reason being for the placebo pills is to help her remember to keep taking the pill; it’s so she’s constantly in the habit of taking that pill at the same time. Most, however, throw out that part if they’re expert birth control pill takers. During this week that no hormones are being ingested is when she will have her period. Then, usually, right before she begins her new package for the month is when her period will end. During the time she is not taking the medicated pills, she is still protected from pregnancy.

Finally, the myths. Common myths that you may have heard are that the pill causes weight gain and/or breast growth. The fact is that everyones body reacts differently to the pill. Some may even lose weight or their weight may not affected at all. When hormones are added to the body, wild things can happen simply because its not natural. She might become more or less hungry at times, moody, and even her sex drive might increase or decrease at times. So it's best to be understanding and supportive while she's altering the hormonal balance of her body for the sake of controlling birth.

Now, I hope you have a general understanding of how birth control works and why it is so important. It's not 100% percent effective, it's not 100% side-effect free, but it has many perks for both you and her in both the short term and long term, if you know what I mean.

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I'd Rather Be Single Than Settle – Here Is Why Being Picky Is Okay

They're on their best behavior when you're dating.
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Dating nowadays described in one word: annoying.

What's even more annoying? when people tell you that you're being too "picky" when it comes to dating. Yes, from an outside perspective sometimes that's exactly what it looks like; however, when looking at it from my perspective it all makes sense.

I've heard it all:

"He was cute, why didn't you like him?"

"You didn't even give him a chance!"

"You pay too much attention to the little things!"

What people don't understand is that it's OKAY to be picky when it comes to guys. For some reason, girls in college freak out and think they're supposed to have a boyfriend by now, be engaged by the time they graduate, etc. It's all a little ridiculous.

However, I refuse to put myself on a time table such as this due to the fact that these girls who feel this way are left with no choice but to overlook the things in guys that they shouldn't be overlooking, they're settling and this is something that I refuse to do.

So this leaves the big question: What am I waiting for?

Well, I'm waiting for a guy who...

1. Wants to know my friends.

Blessed doesn't even begin to describe how lucky I am to have the friends that I do.

I want a guy who can hang out with my friends. If a guy makes an effort to impress your friends then that says a lot about him and how he feels about you. This not only shows that he cares about you but he cares about the people in your life as well.

Someone should be happy to see you happy and your friends contribute to that happiness, therefore, they should be nothing more than supportive and caring towards you and your friendships.

2. Actually, cares to get to know me.

Although this is a very broad statement, this is the most important one. A guy should want to know all about you. He should want to know your favorite movie, favorite ice cream flavor, favorite Netflix series, etc. Often, (the guys I get stuck on dates with) love to talk about themselves: they would rather tell you about what workout they did yesterday, what their job is, and what they like to do rather than get to know you.

This is something easy to spot on the first date, so although they may be "cute," you should probably drop them if you leave your date and can recite everything about their life since the day they were born, yet they didn't catch what your last name was.

3. How they talk about other women.

It does not matter who they're talking about, if they call their ex-girlfriend crazy we all know she probably isn't and if she is it's probably their fault.

If they talk bad about their mom, let's be honest, if they're disrespecting their mother they're not going to respect you either. If they mention a girl's physical appearances when describing them. For example, "yeah, I think our waitress is that blonde chick with the big boobs"

Well if that doesn't hint they're a complete f* boy then I don't know what else to tell you. And most importantly calling other women "bitches" that's just disrespectful.

Needless to say, if his conversations are similar to ones you'd hear in a frat house, ditch him.

4. Phone etiquette.

If he can't put his phone down long enough to take you to dinner then he doesn't deserve for you to be sitting across from him.

If a guy is serious about you he's going to give you his undivided attention and he's going to do whatever it takes to impress you and checking Snapchat on a date is not impressive. Also, notice if his phone is facedown, then there's most likely a reason for it.

He doesn't trust who or what could pop up on there and he clearly doesn't want you seeing. Although I'm not particularly interested in what's popping up on their phones, putting them face down says more about the guy than you think it does.

To reiterate, it's okay to be picky ladies, you're young, there's no rush.

Remember these tips next time you're on a date or seeing someone, and keep in mind: they're on their best behavior when you're dating. Then ask yourself, what will they be like when they're comfortable? Years down the road? Is this what I really want? If you ask yourself these questions you might be down the same road I have stumbled upon, being too picky.. and that's better than settling.

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Buying New Clothes Every Month Has Been The Key To Helping Me Become Happy With My Body Again

Loving my body in new outfits has boosted my self image so much.

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Being body-positive has been really hard for me to do throughout 2019, despite there being an overwhelming surge in body-positivity around me, whether through my friends and family or YouTube. I look in the mirror and what I see is someone I want to make a jean size or two smaller like in the past. That being said, I've slowly been coming around to accepting the body I have now, instead of bashing it constantly. A key way I've come to accept the body I'm in now is through buying myself something new every month, like a new T-shirt or a pair of jeans or sneakers that help me see myself in a positive light. When I'm in a new outfit, I feel invincible. I don't think about how pudgy my stomach is, or about the hair I have growing in random places, like my neck or on my nose (yes, not just in, but ON too).

My bank account tends to suffer as of recently because of this, but it's worth it when I can genuinely feel good in what I am wearing every day. I like to wake up and think about how many outfits I can put together, ready to post my #OOTD for Snapchat without caring what anyone thinks. I've let social media dictate how I feel about myself more than I care to admit. I see how perfect all the models are in everything they're wearing from brands I know and love, yet when I try the same thing on, it's a whole different ugly story.

I don't enjoy trying things on to avoid the shame I feel when things don't fit me right, or if something that I thought would flatter me actually makes me look like a sack of potatoes. Instagram has really hurt my body image a lot — enough to make me delete it for a week after one post sent me spiraling. Going through those bumps made me finally realize it's not my fault if something doesn't fit. Sizes range depending on the item, it's the clothing items fault, not mine. Now that I see that, it's easier to brush off something not fitting me as it should. I know my size very well in the stores I frequent the most, so it's easier for me to pick out things I know will look good and not have to worry about the sizing issue.

Buying yourself something new is not something you should limit to every few months or longer. You shouldn't be afraid to go out of your comfort zone price wise every once and a while either. Coupons exist, stories always offer you them when you first sign up to receive emails and even texts. You can be crafty and still get a high price item for less. If you treat yourself to cheap things, you won't feel half as good as you want to. Granted, sticking to a limit is important but there's no shame in going over the limit every once and a while.

I love shopping as much as I love country music and writing short stories — a lot. Yes, I get yelled at almost every time I get something new. I need to save my money for important things, like for my sorority or for medical issues that could suddenly arise, or for utilities at my house next year off campus.

However, my mental well-being is not something I can ignore.

I can't push the good feelings aside to save 30 or 40 bucks a month. I don't want to feel as low as I've felt about myself anymore. I'm tired of feeling sad or angry at who I am, and I want to learn how to accept myself as I am. Buying myself something new, like clothes, is what offers a positive light to view myself under.

Whether you treat yourself to dinner at your favorite restaurant, or to face masks, or to a new movie when it comes out — don't be afraid to do it. Put yourself first and you'll realize your worth and how much you've been ignoring it in the face of poor confidence.

My confidence isn't back up to where it used to be, but it's getting there.

It may not be the most cash efficient method of self-love, but my body positivity is better than it was a few months ago. Aerie and American Eagle have really helped me become happier with my body, and I can't thank them enough for being more inclusive for people like me who are learning to love themselves again in a new body.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us hoping to promote our own body positivity, and it could all start with a simple purchase from your favorite store after you read this.

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