Making Goals instead of Resolutions

Making Goals instead of Resolutions

Why New Year's Resolutions fail and what you should do instead

It's the New Year, and you know what that means... New Year's Resolutions, and more importantly failed New Year's resolutions. We promise to be better and healthier people, and usually within a week; we abandon them. But why? Maybe we expected too much of ourselves. Resolutions often promise vague and impossible expectations that involve 180 degree turns in our behavior. People don't work like that. Furthermore, there are often no steps to make the resolutions happen. We just expect ourselves to change without taking the proper steps to ensure success. That is why instead of just resolving to be better, set achievable goals for yourself to help make you a better person.

Setting goals involves planning, accountability, and dedication. Resolutions are often more of a vague promise like eating healthier or working out more. What does that involve? How are you going to make it happen? A goal should be realistic about your weaknesses and strengths and have a plan to accomplish what you want to change. If you want to work out more, how many times a week are you working out? Where are you going to work out? What will you be doing at each workout? Write it down, and don't promise to do something if you know you cannot do it. However, the benefit of working towards a goal allows for some failures. If you fail a resolution, it seems like you've failed yourself and the decision gets abandoned. If you are working towards a goal, don't let small failures derail big success. If you miss one workout, it shouldn't ruin all the progress that you have already accomplished. Tell somebody who can help keep you accountable. Ask them to keep tabs on how you are doing. It's much more likely that you will do something if you tell someone you will instead of just holding it in your mind.

So in the spirit of what I've been writing, I'm going to share some of my goals for the New Year to help keep me accountable and maybe inspire you to come up with your own. Also, I decided to start these on January 8th, not the 1st, since that is when I go back to school and because of New Year's traditions.

1) I'm giving up sugar for (at least) 2 months

I know this may sound contradictory to the "don't do something you can't accomplish" or try to change too much at once, but I've actually done it before. After a couple days, you don't really miss it, but getting through those first few days is the most difficult part.

2) I'm going to work out 3 times a week.

3) I'm going to drink only water.

This goes along with not having sugar because most drinks are sugary. However, when I go off sugar, I sometimes still have milk or the occasional glass of juice. I realize that I do not drink enough water, and I want to stay healthy and hydrated, so I'm going to only drink water.

What are your goals for the New Year?

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To The Girl Struggling With Her Body Image

It's not about the size of your jeans, but the size of your heart, soul, and spirit.


To the girl struggling with her body image,

You are more than the number on the scale. You are more than the number on your jeans and dresses. You are way more than the number of pounds you've gained or lost in whatever amount of time.

Weight is defined as the quantity of matter contained by a body or object. Weight does not define your self-worth, ambition or potential.

So many girls strive for validation through the various numbers associated with body image and it's really so sad seeing such beautiful, incredible women become discouraged over a few numbers that don't measure anything of true significance.

Yes, it is important to live a healthy lifestyle. Yes, it is important to take care of yourself. However, taking care of yourself includes your mental health as well. Neglecting either your mental or physical health will inflict problems on the other. It's very easy to get caught up in the idea that you're too heavy or too thin, which results in you possibly mistreating your body in some way.

Your body is your special, beautiful temple. It harbors all of your thoughts, feelings, characteristics, and ideas. Without it, you wouldn't be you. If you so wish to change it in a healthy way, then, by all means, go ahead. With that being said, don't make changes to impress or please someone else. You are the only person who is in charge of your body. No one else has the right to tell you whether or not your body is good enough. If you don't satisfy their standards, then you don't need that sort of negative influence in your life. That sort of manipulation and control is extremely unhealthy in its own regard.

Do not hold back on things you love or want to do because of how you interpret your body. You are enough. You are more than enough. You are more than your exterior. You are your inner being, your spirit. A smile and confidence are the most beautiful things you can wear.

It's not about the size of your jeans. It's about the size of your mind and heart. Embrace your body, observe and adore every curve, bone and stretch mark. Wear what makes you feel happy and comfortable in your own skin. Do your hair and makeup (or don't do either) to your heart's desire. Wear the crop top you've been eyeing up in that store window. Want a bikini body? Put a bikini on your body, simple.

So, as hard as it may seem sometimes, understand that the number on the scale doesn't measure the amount or significance of your contributions to this world. Just because that dress doesn't fit you like you had hoped doesn't mean that you're any less of a person.

Love your body, and your body will love you right back.

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The Nike Controversy that Makes no Sense

Nike has been facing backlash recently, for reasons I just cannot understand.


Nike recently released a plus sized workout clothing line, equipped with beautiful plus size mannequins to advertise their brand. Instead of many in the fitness community rejoicing in this milestone, Nike is facing criticism because people believe that Nike is portraying unhealthy weight standards to their customers.

These individuals believe that the size that is portrayed by Nike's mannequins is obese, and as a result, is telling others that being a size like that is okay. Yet, the mannequins that are usually portrayed in Nike's stores, rarely represent body types of real people.

As I read these comments, I thought to myself – are these people crazy? Think about the men and women who have spent months, maybe even years, trying to lose enough weight just to fit into Nike's plus sized brand! As well, bigger women deserve clothes to work out in. It should not matter if they are "obese" they are working towards a healthier lifestyle.

The backlash being faced by Nike is the mentality that prevents many from even joining a gym. I can completely understand the fear an individual experiences when entering the gym, surrounded by people who look like fitness gods, and you feel like everybody is judging you. As if you do not belong in a gym.

I will never understand how creating more barriers for individuals will motivate others to exercise. In my own opinion, attractive workout clothes are more than enough to motivate me to get to the gym!

Do not let the mentality of fat-shaming, and others fear of a little jiggle prevent you from flaunting Nike's new style, and creating a healthier lifestyle for you

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