In light of recent shootings, including that of the two journalists in Virginia, people are asking, "what can we do to prevent this from occurring again in the future?" Yes, we can have discussions and debates over gun control, but we've had these same discussions before. So, what else can we do? Studies have pinpointed some potential causes of these shootings to be the dangers of depression, stress, and the constant social pressure to fit in. The purpose of this article is not to preach about warning signs of potential suicide or violence, but it is rather to show you how you can make an impact on people's lives every day. The smallest thing can go the longest way.
Here are some ways that we can positively impact someone's life. Who knows, your action might change their mind.
Reach out to someone who is standing alone.
I once read in Dale Carnegie's book "How to Win Friends and Influence People," that humans crave to feel important just as much as they crave food or water. This craving is so strong, that in some cases, people will go as far as to end their lives because they do not feel important. So whether it be at a party, in class, at an event, or anywhere on campus, and you see someone alone, make a genuine effort to become their friend. People like other people when they feel similar to them, so try to find common ground! Some people just like to be alone and are independent—and that is fine! But it doesn’t hurt to try.
Be the one to silence gossip.
They say that gossip and drama stops after high school, but it consumes college students’ conversations as well. We are all victims of this, however we don’t stop to think about the serious harms that gossiping may cause. Be the person that crushes the senseless gossip.Tell these people that negative comments about others shouldn’t be said. Instead, try to find up a new topic to talk about!
Discourage negative self-dialogue, and encourage positivity.
Negative self-dialogue occurs way too often among college students. It is easy to get wrapped up in stressful situations and feel like you are stuck. Self esteem issues are ever-present in college, so try to be the one to bring people up when they are feeling bad about themselves! Bring positivity into the lives of others! If you maintain a positive attitude, it will radiate and positively affect the lives of others, as well.
People like to see smiling faces, and your smile can honestly brighten someone's day. Studies show that smiles are contagious, and that they can also relieve stress. Your body releases endorphins when you smile, which will give you a change in mood and make you feel happier. So if you are smiling, your smile may also lead others to smile as well. You have the potential to completely change the direction of someone else's day just by being happy, yourself.
Not only will these things help other people, but they will also help you to feel happier and more positive too. At the end of the day, you do not need to be a doctor or a psychologist to help those that are hurting. All you need is to be compassionate. Pay attention to your surroundings and influence others with your presence.
