Falling in love is difficult, and there's no denying that. The dating scene can be a difficult place for any of us, but when you're a fat girl, it's even harder. Most people use physical attractiveness to base their initial attraction, and for a lot of people, fat girls aren't attractive. Just because we have a little extra around our waist we're viewed as less of a person and it's harder for us to find love.

But when the fat girl does fall in love, things get difficult. The person we're dating get constant judgments, constant stares, all because we're bigger than a size two. Disney movies tell us stories of humans and beasts falling in love or the poor maid turning into a beautiful princess, but somehow our society cannot grasp the concept of a someone loving a fat girl. Guys on dating apps make comments like "You're pretty for a fat girl" or "I'd sleep with you if you lost thirty pounds" and those words hurt. Every crush I have on a decently attractive guy is shot down because they're "too good" for a girl who has stretch marks and fat rolls. Somehow, my personality doesn't matter just because I'm a fat girl. No one cares to get to know me past my physical appearance. These guys will never learn that I really love holding hands and cuddling, that I can sing entire musical soundtracks, or that I have a lot of passion and desire in everything I do in my life because they're too shallow to look past who I am on the outside.

I know that one day I'll find someone who doesn't care what size dress I wear, but the constant denial I get takes its toll. The stigma society has placed on "loving a bigger girl" has turned loving a fat girl into a fetish. Everyone assumes that to love a big girl, you have to have a BBW fetish...which isn't the case. All it takes to love a big girl is to look past her weight and pant size and get to know her as a person. Learn her quirks, her interests, what makes her happiest, and decide if you value her as a person. If you do, then falling with her shouldn't be a problem. Who cares how much she weighs? Why does it matter? If you love a fat girl, then you love a fat girl. Fat girls aren't just fat. They're so much more than that. They're intelligent, they're sweet, they're passionate, they're kind. They're people, too, and they deserve love.