There's nothing worse than being stuck in the middle of something, but there's nothing better than being loved by a lot of people. In the life of a kid of divorce, both are present.
I know that most of you reading this can already picture it, because you've been through it a hundred times; visiting another parent only on the weekends (if you're lucky enough to see them that much), having two birthday parties, two Christmas gatherings, two of pretty much any holiday you could think of. There will always come a tough time when you have to make your own decisions in life, and being caught between parents is one of the biggest struggles to face. These situations make you realize that you have to be content in who you are to be able to stand your ground against one, or maybe both, parents.
For many kids who have experienced divorce, it's difficult to believe in true love. Thoughts of doubt and distrust are a constant battle. That being said, I chose to write this article to help others. I want to tell you that you are not alone, and I have been where you've been.The most important thing to remember is that you CAN believe in love.
I, personally, have struggled immensely with the demon of loneliness, and still to this very day. Through many heartbreaks, the same question rings in my head, "Is true love and soulmates even real?" Going through relationships and picturing yourself with that person for the rest of your life is an exciting thing, but when it all comes crumbling down, the doubt becomes stronger and stronger every time.
My parents, like many others, made the right decision by not staying together. I can't say that at the time I wasn't hurt over it, but as I have gotten older, I've realized that them staying together would have done much more harm than good. I positively believe that in their hearts of hearts, my parents knew that there were better things ahead for them both - that their forever person was out there just waiting for them.
Now, here we are, almost 15 years since my parents have been divorced, and I could not be more grateful for the families that I have. Both of my parents are remarried to the people that I know God created especially for them. Don't get me wrong, there are still troubled waters, but that's just life. Things have to go wrong for you to appreciate it when things are going right. The mistakes can't be changed, but as my daddy always said, "Your attitude can get you everywhere, or nowhere." Changing your outlook is the best thing you can do in any adversity. For those reasons, I have chosen to have faith in love.
"Until it's mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it's a waste of time. There are too many mediocre things in life... Love shouldn't be one of them."
