This is Part 2 of the "What is Love" series. Check out the main article which lists the 7 successful attributes to a relationship.
Part 1: Never say, "I Love you" unless you truly mean it.
Part 2:
Communication, Communication, and Communication.
Communication is one of the most complicated factors of a relationship to understand and master. In a relationship, you may find that communicating with your loved one can be like using dial-up internet compared to a fast broadband connection. Communication in a relationship involves each other understanding how the other communicates. If you find communication being a problem in your relationship, do not panic.
View communication in a relationship as a dance. It's just you and the other person on a fancy evening. How you present a conversation to the other person can be compared to then dance. If you put the wrong step forward or dance in a different style than what the situation asks for then you will find yourself in an argument. Conflict is good, but it is healthy to communicate to prevent miscommunication.
Sometimes men will find themselves in a question dilemma. The woman will ask the man what dress she should wear and the man wants to say she looks beautiful in anything, but he knows for a fact she can't wear both dresses. The guy then decides which one and the woman may either say why not the blue one instead. This also happens in other situations with men when they give choices of where to eat. It is best to only give two choices on things so that making a decision in a relationship can be handled with ease. You can have a zillion date ideas but if you go ahead and narrow it to two you can ask your loved one where they would like to go easier than attacking them with all of the lovely dates you could have that night.
Communication has to be met with equal attention. In order to communicate with your loved one, you should also listen to them. If you don't listen to your loved one with both ears instead of one , then there will be a great problem in the way you interact. It is crucial to always aspire to treat your relationship as an investment having communication as the currency. This currency is what makes the relationship successful in interacting with each other as well as other people.
Understanding your loved one's passions, desires, and necessities of life result in better knowledge of your loved one's way of communicating either verbally, physically, or even mentally. Some people communicate love through giving gifts, spending quality time with each other, or in other ways. If you are with someone who you do not like what they talk about or how they talk about something let them know. For all the men out there, please don't cuss at or even in front of your loved one. Treating your loved one in the same manner you would your drinking friend or best friend may not be the best course of action with the woman you love. Love comes with respect and the most important way to show respect is how you communicate your loved one. Be yourself in all respects, but watch how you verbally communicate to someone who will go to the end of this world and back for you.
This is the Love Guru signing off! Meet me again next week for a lesson on "Going Dutch".
