Does it matter who you love? Should it matter?
Well, if you've been on Facebook these last few days you'll understand what I am talking about. There are a few memes going around about interracial dating. Someone decided to put together a collage of pictures of black successful men who are married to white women. These memes went viral, but not for the right reasons.
In the comment section, there were hundreds of black women who were angry. They were angry because they felt as if these black men had let down the black community.
But isn't love just love?
Interracial dating has become more and more popular over the years, yet some people can't come to terms with it. It's not just black men dating white women, it goes deeper than that. We're in a time and age where anybody should be accepted no matter who they love, so what's taking so long for everyone to get on board?
I'm not sure of the answer, but something needed to be said.
People have the right — and should have always had the right — to date and love whoever they want. The American society seems always to be in other people's business more than their own. If interracial dating didn't exist neither would I. I am a proud product of black and white love, but this doesn't mean it's better than black on black love; they're equal.
Everyone loves differently and their meaning of love may be different than yours, but honestly who cares? That's right you shouldn't!
If no one ever dated outside their race, most of us wouldn't be here. It's okay to not want to date outside of your race, but it's not okay when you tell someone else to not do so.
Love is something that should be treasured not ridiculed. If it's not your own relationship, then you shouldn't care. Maybe if we all focused on ourselves a little more, everyone would be a little happier.
I was inspired to write this article from a close friend of mine. Keynen Butler is one of the nicest young men I know, but sometimes he gets judged because he dates a white woman. His girlfriend, Ashley Marcks, is perfect for him and I just don't understand how someone could hate their love.
It's pure. It's real. It's their love and they should be able to show it openly.
This is only one of the many cases I've come across and I am fed up. We judge each other harshly for things we can't control. As human beings, we're not perfect and if we're lucky enough to find someone who loves us for us, I don't see what the problem is.
In 2017 we need to let go and enjoy life. Live our own lives to the fullest and let others do the same. Everyone says they want to make a change for the new year, well you can. Change the way you look at interracial dating because you'll never know who you're hurting.
