Don`t blame love, blame the things that lie between it...
Most of us have a perception of love and it is either good or bad, based on our experiences with it, but if you look deeper, you will find out that love is the thing that gives us hope, in an often dim world. Of course, there are things like envy and abandonment that make us hate love altogether, but even though these things can make us feel down, they should not blind us to what true love really is.
When you first begin to talk to someone and the feelings start to build, before you know it, you have fallen for this person. It might seem great in the beginning and don`t we all feel this way? We all wish that we could just live in the beginning stages of a relationship, but that is not how it works. After some time, you begin to look around and notice certain traits that you were oblivious to in the beginning and you come down from the high you were once on. Love can make us do some crazy things and overlook major things and when reality really hits us, it can make us feel stupid for believing this person we have come to adore. In one instance, if you start to experience the stages of jealousy, this is where your relationship becomes complicated for not only you but your partner as well.
When you constantly feel like you have to compete for a spot that was once yours, it makes you insecure and it also makes you fearful about opening up because you do not want to seem "crazy" or "controlling." However, if you keep everything in, it is not going to be good for you or your partner because it could all spill out at one time. You are better at expressing how you feel the moment you see it, especially if you cannot act like everything is fine and play it off for the time being. As for your partner, they tend to get annoyed with all the nagging and lectures, but soon enough, something that was once their fault is now projected on you and you are labeled the "crazy" one.
Looking back on all of the memories and good times that you had and hope to have in the future becomes saddening because you don`t want anything to change, but you can`t help but think of the way they are acting. Everything starts to become exhausting and you keep going and pushing through for this person because they are worth the pain, but you stop and think if they would do the same for you when you have given them every reason to leave, would they still stay?
You cannot control anyone's feelings or actions, but what you can do is not hate love and blame it for the causation of this pain because love is everything but that. Liam Neeson has a famous quote below that explains this deeply.
