Disclaimer: I will be using the word "love" in this article many times loosely and interchangeably with any kind of feelings of attachment toward another person. Also, there will be many cheesy quotes.
Love is a funny thing. Love has become so popularized by the media. Everyone knows of it and that it exists. But no one really knows what it is. Some people may have a better idea of what it is than others but you can't really put a finger on it. I'm still young and haven't been through much at all but I'll tell you what I think I know about it so far and my opinions on it.
Love doesn't make sense.
Over the course of my life, I liked a good amount of girls. But I also didn't like a good amount of girls. The funny thing about it is I learned that love can't be forced. I know it may sound weird but there have been times where I really did want to like a girl. I tried my best to like them, but for some reason, I just couldn't. It just gets to a point where you realize you can't see them that way, at least for now, or ever.
"But love doesn't make sense. You can't logic your way into or out of it. Love is totally nonsensical" - Ted Mosby
There was a girl that I met. It kinda felt like destiny because of the way we met. I hold myself to standards and she met every single one of them. She didn't raise one red flag. It seemed like we should be compatible for every possible reason in the book. Our interests everything were pretty spot on and on paper, we would have been a great couple. Because of the way we met and since I had every "pro" on the list and every reason to like her, I really tried to. But just for some reason, I couldn't.
Then there was another I met. Remember those red flags that I set? Yeah, forget them all. This girl didn't hold up to anything that I thought I wanted in a girl. We were pretty much opposites and we had almost nothing in common. The "con" list completely outweighed the "pro" list. But you know she was a good friend and all. A great friend. Over the course of the school year, we spent a lot of time together. Believe me, I didn't want to fall for her. I tried my best to hold back my feelings. But eventually, I did fall for her. Against all odds, somehow I fell for someone that it didn't make sense for me to fall for at all. And guys, I fell for her so hard. If you ask me why I probably can't really give you a clear. But if you felt the way I felt, before, after, and when I was with her, there's no way you can tell me that what you felt wasn't real.
"It doesn't have to make sense, to make sense" - Ted Mosby
Guys are always going around saying that I can treat her better. She belongs with me. Girls are always going around saying that they're so dumb for choosing the bad boy. We deserve someone who can treat us better. In the movies and in the shows, the characters sometimes fall in love with the wrong people and get completely devastated. Well they don't just come up with the story from thin air. As people, we can't really choose who we love. We just love when we do and don't when we don't.
"You love who you love" - John Mayer
You can describe love in many different ways. You can feel love many different ways. All I can tell you, for now, is that you can't really choose who you love. I can also tell you that it doesn't have to make sense for you to love them to love them and you don't have to love them because it makes sense.
