Summer romances are in the air. Long, sunny days with lake hair all snugged up with the boo is all that my Instagram consists of. Movie nightin' , tan linin', kayak lovin' couples seem to be the norm as I do the constant media peeks. Let's be honest, a lot of these feelings come from jealously as I am sitting lonely on the couch watching my eleventh episode of Fixer Upper of the day. Every 19-year old woman wants a man even when the men she seems to attract are good for nothin' . As I was pondering on my single-for-the-summer-life, I got to thinking as I was drowning my emotions with the strong country women playlist on iTunes.. then BAM. Mickey Guyton got my heart stirring and snapped me out of my gotta-have-a-man-to-be-okay funk.

Whether he left you or you left him, I know all too well what a disappointed heart feels like. Everything you do, reminds you of the fact you are that single girl and the man that left you standing there is haunting you like a bad dream. The disease of singleness as a young adult is frustratingly immersive. Summer is a time for a breath from the real world, good times, and a time to take a slow down from that crazy, fast college life. I find myself having more free time then I'd like, which usually ends up with a little pity party of my lonesome life. Why am I single? Why did he leave? What did I do wrong? These thoughts come flying through this young fragile heart as fast as can be. As these strong songs came flowing through my car speakers, it rocked my world. It made me realize that it is perfectly okay to be single. It is okay to not have a man to hold your door open or call to tell you goodnight. It will all come with time.

This disease of being alone leads to us, as women, to settle for less than we deserve. We focus our time and energy on how to get a man to like us or get his attention. The truth is I need to take care of me before a man can. Taking time for yourself is so so important and I forget to do it so often. If how many times I change an outfit for the day is a tool for measuring how much I change my mind, I break the scale. So go to that coffee shop, get a cute coloring book, grab a journal, and spend time just doing your thing. Dig into God's word for yourself and get to know your first love before you get to know a man. Discover what you want in a man before you go falling. It isn't any fun falling for the wrong one, can I get an Amen girls? You deserve to have that love story. I believe in love stories and real love and fairytales. No it won't be perfect, nothing ever is, but I know there is a love that will be pretty stinkin' close out there if I just put on my waiting pants. You deserve a man who puts God first then you. You deserve a man who is for you and only you. You deserve a man who puts you above his worldy habits and pleasures. You deserve respect. You deserve a love that believes in your dreams just as much as you believe in theirs. Pray for your future husband, that he is where he needs to be and pursing God in all he is doing. Be the woman you want to be for God and for your future man by deciding who you are and how you love and receive love. Love yourself and see yourself as someone who deserves this fairytale love because you so do. When I am chasing the relationship pressure, I forget what I actually want for my life. I forget about my personal dreams and solely focus on the pursue of a man. Use this summer to get to know you.

Do you wanna go on that summer adventure, then grab your girlfriends and plan that trip. Or go take in a scenery with just you and Jesus, clear your head and breathe for a second. Life is beautiful. Want to go grab some coffee or lunch, get your favorite book and head on over. Loneliness can be one of the best things to ever happen to you if you embrace it. Enjoy your time with just you. Treat yo self girl, you don't need no man if the Lord isn't providing one. You're in your early 20's once, live them like they are going out of style. Remember what you do have and cherish it. Don't sweat it, love ain't in a hurry.