Many of us started new relationships in college, just to part ways due to being from different towns, states or parts of the country. The stigma is that all relationships that are considered to be long-distance end at a certain point in time. Not being able to see a significant other for long periods of time is very difficult, and the loneliness is inevitable. Ideally, most of us would like to be able to see our boyfriend or girlfriend almost every day, but that's an unrealistic standpoint.
Not being able to see the person you're dating for sometimes months at a time starts to wear, not only on the relationship, but on a person's heart and soul. The human spirit is meant to love and be loved, so when we're not able to be with our person in "real life," our heads start to be pointed downward a lot more.
Positivity is the fix for a crooked head. Head held high because your boyfriend or girlfriend loves you and the time you do get to spend together. It could be said that having to wait to see them makes seeing them finally even more magical, but that's too cliché. Who cares that you're hours away? Who cares about the couples that live close to each other and get to see each other every day?
If you said "I do" to those questions, then I know it isn't just me. It's normal to be jealous of people who get to spend more than enough time with who they're dating. How nice would it be to just watch a movie, get some ice cream or even go on a 15-minute walk with them? It would allow those of us in a long-distance relationship to just take a moment and look at them face to face and not over FaceTime.
OK, we get it, being in a long-distance relationship sucks and totally dampens your mood, but, you're still dating them for a reason, right? If your boyfriend or girlfriend is hours away and still has the ability to make you smile, does it really matter how far away they are? If you wake up happy because you're dating that special person, do the miles matter? Sometimes, yeah, it does matter, and it gets really sad, but just like with everything else in life, there are good days and bad days. Starting a relationship with distance probably isn't the greatest idea (oops), but if you love the person and the way they make you feel even miles apart, it is totally worth the effort. Yes, long-distance relationships take effort, but so do the relationships with couples living under the same roof.
Without positivity, patience, love and kindness, no relationship will work. Love each other and bring out the best in one another. It's hard to do all the time, but the very best relationships succeed with overcoming challenges.
In all honesty, the long-distance relationship might not work for you two, and you both decide that you just couldn't do it, but guess what? That's OK, and the time will come like it always does for you to start fresh and new.
For now, however, continue to live in the moment and appreciate the moments together that you are given. It's worth the effort, and if in the end you're still happy and in love, I'd say you've done a damn well job.
