Having A Best Friend At Another College Is One Of Life's Greatest Treasures

Having A Best Friend At Another College Is One Of Life's Greatest Treasures

To my long distance buddies, I love you and miss you very much!


As everyone is starting to get back to their own colleges and head off on their own ways, it made me sit back and realize that I am incredibly lucky to have some amazing friends that go to different colleges all around the U.S. Not only do they get to experience different things than I do, but I also get the opportunity to say that I have friends in some cool places.

My sophomore year of high school was when a ton of changes started to really happen for me. The best thing to come of those changes was the happenstance of meeting my two best friends, Erica and Kelsey. Not only are they completely two different people with very different personalities, but both of them go to two different - rivalry- colleges as well. I love them to death and having them be so far can be incredibly hard at times. Yet, having them so far away has really helped to nourish and grow our friendships by allowing us to have to stay in touch and be in communication more than we were in high school.

Having a long distance best friend is AMAZING, let me tell you. Not only do you sometimes get to have wonderful late night phone calls or video chats with them, but they also do not have the ability to constantly annoy you -- jokes they will always do this, even if they are far away. You also get to write them letters! Visiting them for football or basketball games or even on a long weekend also makes for some fun adventures to eventually tell your kids about when you're both old and grey. I also love listening to what their life is like while at their school because just like you they are a completely different person there than they are at home.

Yes, I know having a best friend that lives far away nine months out of the year is incredibly hard. It's all about putting effort into maintaining those friendships. I cannot tell you how many times my freshman year of college I so badly wanted them to be there, but I got over it quickly and met some pretty awesome people on Butler's campus -- one's who I can my Butler best friends. No one is ever going to replace your long distance best friend though. They are always going to have your back, no what embarrassing stuff you do when you are at home or alone or even know how messed up your sleep schedule. They are the friends that you know will be apart of your wedding someday. They are the ones you constantly come back to every summer and know you like the back of their hand. They really are the best friends anyone could ask for, not only because they put up with you but because no matter how much time has passed they are still there for you.

At the end of the day, I know that Kelsey and Erica are both there for me and that no matter how far apart we are I always have them to count on. They are both truly amazing women to look up to and have by my side on this journey that we call life. I may not talk to the two of them every single day, but I love them to the moon and back. I do not know where I would be without you two lovely human beings. *long distance hug*


So do not forget to check-in once a week or just call your long distance best friend this school year. I know it gets hard being at different schools, but the best part is knowing that no matter the distance there will always be someone who loves and tolerates you no matter what.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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It Is OK To Have Guy Friends That Are Literally Just Guy Friends

Some of my best friends are guys and sometimes they are better friends than girls are.


Lately, I have come to the realization that some of my guy friends are better then some girls I call my "friends". Ever since middle school, I have always had many guy friends that have always been just guy friends, and nothing more. Some girls had a problem with it back then and they still do now, maybe because they are jealous, or maybe because they feel left out. However, I decided a long time ago to keep those guy friends for reasons like...

1. They Don't Take Things So Seriously

You can always joke around with them, and they will joke around with you right back. You can be as nice as you want or as mean as you want to them, and they will always take it as joke. I think that sometimes girls have a difficult time deciphering between when you are being serious or when you are joking. Most of my guys friends tend to not things too seriously at least 75% of the time.

2. They Are Always Honest

When I need a blatantly honest opinion I always ask my guy friends (and my mom). I do this because guys do not really care about whether or not their response will make you mad. Also, guys do not think about if their answer will benefit them personally or not before they answer.

3. They Genuinely Listen To You

Not all the time. But when I am upset, they are always the ones most concerned. Some of my guy friends take over the "big brother" role when it comes to some situations. My guy friends always listen to my problems or just the same old rants I give all the time because if something is wrong, or something has hurt me, they want to know, in order for them to try and fix it.

I am not trying to say that my girl friends are not my best friends either, and I really do have the best best friend. But sometimes, it just feels good to hangout with my guy friends. Guy friends, that I have never had a romantic relationship or feelings for and they have not had for me. These guys have always been there, and for that I am grateful.

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