15 Signs You're The Mom Friend Of The Group

15 Ways You’re The Designated 'Mom' Friend Of The Group

But you wouldn't want it any other way!


I think we can all agree that every friend group has one member that is the mom. It doesn't matter how small or how large your friend group is, there is always a mother role that one friend fills. And if you don't know who it is, odds are, it's you. There's nothing wrong with giving your friends a little motherly love, I have come to terms with this role, and now I just own it. And so, will you.

Here are 15 signs that you are the mother of the friend group.

1. You drive a minivan


Not a mom-friend necessity, but definitely a perk. If you drive a minivan, you have plenty of room for all your friends and can keep an eye on most of them as you're driving.

2. You make sure your friends have water and Advil after a night out


If your friends are going out, you always make sure they are prepared for the morning after. That means, liquids, medicine, and food.

3. You wait until whoever you're dropping off made it in their house before you pull away


You don't want to risk them being stuck outside for hours when they can just come back to your house. Plus, knowing they're safely in their house will make you happy.

4. You remind your friends to do their homework, no matter how much they don't want to

Whether you're hanging out at the library or in your apartment, you always make sure their studies come first. Even if it means not seeing them until the weekend.

5. You tell your friends to text you when they make it home safely

For those times when you're not driving, you need to know your besties made it to their homes safely. Regardless of the weather or time of day, you just want some peace of mind knowing their safe and sound.

6. You're a shoulder to cry on for everything


If there's boy drama, you're there with tissues and ice cream. If there's financial instability, you're there with dinner and drinks. You are always there to listen to your friends' problems and offer comforting advice to help solve them.

7. You're often a third wheel


Your friends will ensure that it's a big group of people going, but then you're the only without a date. This could happen so often, that one of your resolutions is to NOT be the third wheel this new year.

8. You're addicted to baking, cooking, and house renovating shows

I am currently obsessed with shows about houses. I find them fascinating and really enjoyable to watch. And you bet I have watched all kinds of baking shows on Netflix. I absolutely eat them up!

9. You're not afraid to fight anyone who hurts or argues with your friends

Anyone who wrongs your friend, wrongs you by association. This is a perk of having a mom friend, she's not afraid to take matters in her own hands to protect her friends.

10. You proofread every essay


You want nothing but success for your friends. Even if that means reading w twenty-page paper about a topic you don't care about. Or a lab report that you don't understand. You're a proofreading god.

11. You volunteer to be the designated driver

You don't want your friends walking to the bars, and you definitely don't want them to have to pay for an Uber. So, you volunteer to transport your friends to and from the bars because you love them that much.

12. You know your friends' cut-off limits

As the mom friend, you can tell when your friends have had a little ~too~ much to drink. So, you learn their limits and exchange their mixed drinks for water. You also make sure all friends have eaten something before a night out.

13. You encourage your friends to put themselves out there

You are your friends' biggest fan. You support them through everything, and you also push them out of their comfort zones to try new things. You make sure they're looking into new things and putting their best effort forth.

14. You refer to your friends as your "babies"

Your friends may be older than you, but that doesn't matter here. You refer to your friends as your "babies," "kiddos," etc. because your friends are small and pure and need to be protected.

15. You make sure everyone is happy and comfortable

You always make sure everyone has a drink, if they want anything to eat, or need a blanket or phone charger, anything. You will even drive them to McDonald's or Walmart for something they're craving because you're just that good.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Finding Your Niche In College Starts With Finding You

Attempting to be someone you are not for the sake of having company only hurts you in the long run.


Transitioning to college is hard enough, but trying to find a place where you feel "at home" can make this time even more stressful. Here are some tips on how to find that place/group of people that make you feel like sunshine.

I have always felt a little out of place wherever I went, but it wasn't until college that I realized that this feeling was so special and more people should capitalize on their differences rather than conforming to a certain mold. Transitioning to college and finding your place among so many people can be very overwhelming. The added stress of attempting to be someone you aren't for the sake of having company adds a whole other layer to this problem. The easiest thing for me to do in any situation like this is trying to make the setting a little smaller. One of the most obvious ways to do this on a college campus is by getting involved!

It is inevitable that within the first few weeks of the semester at any college, there will be an organization fair. This is a chance to scope out all that your school has to offer! Chances are there will be some type of group or club that lines up with your interests. Most college campuses have extracurricular opportunities ranging from social sororities and fraternities, professional ones, intermural sports, vocal groups, and so many more. You are more than likely going to find some type of organization that you can call home if you seek them out. Joining an organization is such an easy way to interact with people with similar interests. An interest can bring two completely different people together and create some beautiful friendships. It is situations like this where it is important to be your authentic self and mingle with those you share something with.

That being said, finding your place in college isn't always about being involved. Getting involved on campus is just one of the simplest ways to start. There are so many other opportunities on campus to meet people whether it be among others in your residence hall, people in your classes, or just people you find yourself stumbling upon! Finding people to spend your time with is easy; however, you should make it a point to surround yourself with people who bring you up.

Once you have a set group of people that you find yourself spending time with, it is important to pay attention to the way you feel when you're around them. If you find yourself feeling bad about yourself or get the impression that you need to change something in order to "fit in," chances are the people you're around are not the best for you or your self-esteem. It is important to surround yourself with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin. That being said, you also want people who encourage you to make good decisions and help you reach your goals. People who encourage toxic behavior in your life might be fun in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, you need to be surrounded by people with your best interest in mind. Essentially, surrounding yourself with people who influence you to be your best self is one of the best decisions you can make short and long term.

The key to all of this is being conscious of your own feelings and needs. Pay attention to who reaches out to you to hang out. Notice the ones who pay attention to you as you speak when it feels like no one is listening. More than anything, be conscious of who you're with and where you're at when you experience moments of pure happiness. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don't build you up. Wouldn't you rather spend your time with more moments of pure joy than self-hate? Start living for you!

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