Everyone has a little bit of fear when it comes to making new friends, and whether they are going to like you are not. Public speaking is scary for everyone, but when you have social anxiety it is 10 times worse. Always second guessing yourself and not knowing if you are like in the way or if people don't want you around anymore. It takes over your entire life and it can really mentally mess you up.
1.Thinking that people are constantly staring at you
You are just walking around and feeling like you people are staring. And because you feel like they are starting at you all you can think about is there something wrong, is there something on my face, is there something wrong with my clothes. Now there is this overwhelming fear that there is a problem.
2. Fear of saying something stupid when you are in a group
When you're in a group, there are a lot of conversations going on so you want to try and fit in. But you are constantly second-guessing whether you should say anything or just stay silent. You don't want to seem stupid, or too much, so, there are so many things running through your head, in the end, you don't even end up talking to the others.
3. Feeling like people are judging you all the time.
Feeling like the people staring at you are just judging everything you are doing if its walking or the clothes that you are wearing. There is nothing that you can do but constantly fear that there is something off about you.
4. Having an irrational fear that your friends are always annoyed with you
When you hang out with them all you feel is do they actually want me here? If they make a little face or just
5. As ridiculous as it sounds not knowing what to do with your hands
Like, do u put them by your side or do you put them on your hips. Or do u hold them in front of you? What can you do with them without being awkward about it!
6. Having this feeling that everyone knows what you are thinking
If you are anything like me, my eyes can say everything. It's stressful because you don't want people to be able to know what your thinking, it makes you feel vulnerable, and exposed.
7. Scared that your friends aren't going to want to be your friends anymore
You feel like they are done with you, all the time. If they do something without you one time all you can think about is do they still want me around. Or if they make a comment that wasn't meant to be taken that way, it affects you so much. Or like will they find better people to be friends with so you won't be relevant anymore.
8. Always second guessing yourself
Feeling as if you never are doing the right thing, or feeling that you didn't make the right decisions.
9. Never feeling secure in friendships
Always thinking that people are going to be moving on from being friends with you, or feeling like you aren't good enough to be friends with someone. Or that you are just too weird and awkward to be around.
10. Worrying about little irrelevant things.
The little things that, most wouldn't think about really affect how we feel when it comes to anything social. We are always overthinking everything and worrying that we are good enough.
11. Hoping you never get called on during school.
The dread that fills your whole body when your sitting in class and the teacher is asking from classroom participation. You are silently praying that you don't get called on because you wouldn't even know how to respond. And everyone is going to be staring at you when you respond.
It really affects our day to day, always making us feel like we aren't enough and trying to be better but not feeling like we are succeeding.
