1. Accept your flaws.
Listen up ladies, the sooner you accept your flaws, the better. News Flash: everyone has flaws, and don’t let them say they don’t. If you acknowledge your flaws, then no one can upset you by pointing them out. In an argument, someone’s first instinct is to criticize your flaws. If you have already accepted them, it won’t hurt as much. Remember, people can only hurt you if you let them.
2. Date the guy that seems totally wrong for you!
The common excuse from girls is “He’s just not my type”. Is there someone who hands out types? Because if so, I need to have a word with them! Try to venture out, do not stick with one type of guy. I’m grateful for that one nice guy I gave a chance to, because he showed me how I am supposed to be treated. Trust me, only dating "bad boys" gets old after a while. You never know, the guy you think is wrong for you might be the one. Give him a chance!
3. Listen to your Mom.
She has unconditional love for you, so she’s going to tell you the truth. No matter what kind of relationship you have with your Mother, you need to listen to her. My own Mom taught me this lesson last month; Mom’s see what you cannot see yourself. Moms know when your friend is fake, or being a “garden tool”. She knows when that boy you like is no good, because she probably dated a version of him. It might be hurtful at first, but maybe you should take it into consideration.
4. Love and believe in yourself.
Ladies, throughout your life not everyone is going to love you. The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself. If you love yourself deep down, you won’t heavily depend on love from someone else. How you feel on the inside, portrays on the outside. You need to be kind to yourself. Repeat after me, “you’re amazing, and I believe in you”. Trust me, after a while you will see a positive impact.
5. It's normal to lose friends along the way.
Not all of your friends are meant to stay with you, throughout your life journey. Over time, I have lost friends that I grew up with; although it still hurts, it’s life. The best thing is to give yourself time to grieve the friendship, then accept it. Their chapter in your book is over, and you just have to turn the page. If you feel like someone isn’t contributing to your happiness, then it may be time to reevaluate the friendship. If those friends who you have lost were truly meant to be in your life, they will come back.
6. You do not need money to look good.
Do I wish I could spend thousands on makeup & clothes? Yes, but let’s be reasonable. Whether you shop at Forever 21 or Walmart, it’s okay! You do not need to be rich to look fabulous. Girl, Walgreens makeup looks the same as expensive Mac makeup. Also, I’ve made some pretty memorable outfits from clothes off of Walmart’s racks! You could be wearing a garbage bag, but it’s all about your ability to work it. Stay fierce my friends!
7. Keep your standards high & don’t apologize for it.
I always knew this lesson deep down, but it didn’t become important till I met Mr.Wrong. You should never have to lower your standards for any guy. Guys who treat you bad, don’t deserve your time, or attention. A man should want to rise up to meet your standards, not bring your standards down. If he makes you feel ridiculous, he has no plan on reaching your standards. You aren’t “stuck up”, you are a woman who knows what she wants! R-E-S-P-E-C-T!
9. Being nice to other girls isn’t a crime!
At least once in your life you are going to get a compliment from an intoxicated girl, in a bar bathroom. These girls are the nicest people you will meet, and probably never see again. She will probably be stumbling, and telling you that your whole outfit “is like totally flawless”. Our society says we need to be in constant competition with every girl.You never know what someone is going through behind closed doors. So your compliment can make them feel good. Next time you see a girl, give her a compliment! It will make you feel good also, I promise.
10. Learn from your mistakes.
It's inevitable, you are going to make mistakes. The beautiful upside is, everyone makes them. Keep in mind that you are only human, you are allowed to mess up every now and then. On the other hand, after you make the same mistake for the second time, it becomes a choice. Save yourself the headache, and learn your lesson the first time. One of my favorite quotes says “Fall down seven times, stand up eight”. Try not to be too hard on yourself. After all, you're doing the best you can!
