It should come as no surprise that older generations are "set in their ways." "It's just how I was raised" has altered from a once resilient, era-defining statement to what is now an excuse for opposition to change. Such a statement is a favorite of my retirement-age approaching stepfather Tom (who's name I have changed for this article). He has some choice words for people that don't fit into his carefully assigned stereotypes and roles.
A list of things I have directly heard my 65-year-old, white stepfather say over the course of six months. Enjoy:
"I think all women should be able to sew, but not all men."
"There are only two genders."
"That's not what feminism is."
"If you ever become a lesbian, I would disown you."
"Ching-chong-chang-ching" (When ordering Chinese food)
"A male gynecologist knows the same amount of stuff about a vagina as a woman."
"I've dated plenty of women, I know what it's like to have a period."
"A boy is supposed to be masculine, and a girl is suppose to be feminine."
"Those girls should cover up more."
"When I see an attractive woman, I always look at her chest first and then her face."
"What's wrong with the Redskins logo?"
" Trump has some valid points."
Being raised by a single black mother for most of my life definitely shifted when she married a white man. He provided security and contentment though it came with the cost of his ignorance and biases. Tom is similar to many cases; those who refuse to leave their insensitive bubbles on account of comfort, conscious that they are demeaning those closest to them. Though such is the case with white, male privilege.
When dealing with those who go against your opinions and beliefs, remember that patience is key. I have learned the hard way that you cannot completely change a person, though there are many possibilities for small breakthroughs. Numerous small steps will have to be accumulated before any actual change occurs, because these individuals will be unlearning everything they know. In the long run, it will benefit everyone.
So Tom, it's safe to say you embody every aspect of male entitlement. Congratulations. Let's go celebrate by buying a "Trump 2016" banner. You've earned it.
