Someone I used to know once told me, "You don't fix what isn't broken". If I was to live by that quote, my life would have taken a different direction. It could be frightening to altar your life, but it ultimately opens the doors to opportunities you didn't imagine. Step out of your boundary line and learn a few things about yourself. The other side is a beautiful place filled with risk and adventure.
If you find yourself in a situation where you do not know if change is the right decision, go through the pros and cons. For example, a huge change that I experienced was transferring from a small high school in Queens, to a huge university in Brooklyn. I developed so many cons that I almost declined Brooklyn College because the location was too far, and I didn't know the area well enough. The little excuses do not match up to the amount of opportunities Brooklyn College has provided me. Looking back, I would have missed out on all the friends I've made, the radio station, amazing counseling, attentive tutors, job connections and writing this article.
As humans we become so comfortable and disregard what we could be experiencing. When it comes to long term relationships, change is what keeps the love flowing. If you find yourself thinking, "Does a three year relationship mean sitting on the couch and watching TV all the time?" you have to crack the habit. Nine months ago, I realized that there was more to look forward to than the next episode of "Prison Break". I wanted him to explore the world with me, but within the relationship it was difficult to change old habits. There was an imaginary line that divided how comfortable he was and how much he was willing to explore with me.
I knew it was over when he judged me for wanting "to fix what isn't broken". Instead of trying to create more memories, we drifted apart. I'll admit I felt guilty for breaking someone's heart, but then I realized that I put his feelings before mine. Three months after the breakup, I learned that I am not one to settle for anything less. I was able to gather what was right for me without someone by my side. I'm not implying that you should change relationships like you change your underwear, but you should reconsider why you're with them. Do they make you happy? Do they add to your growth? Do they support what you aspire?
Before you make changes, realize that while gaining you may also be losing. However, if your constantly unhappy take that into consideration. Often times before someone makes a change they think about how it may affect other people. Don't focus on what other people think because they are not in your position. I dare you to escape your comfort zone. You don't want to miss out on happiness, because your not selfish. Be selfish with others when it comes to decisions about yourself. This will not only help you recognize your own value, but soon enough others will see it too. So embrace the change, because if your losing that much it may just be for the best. Stay true to you.
