We are always defining everything about ourselves. You're either blond/brunette, girly/tomboy, sweet/sarcastic, introvert/extrovert, etc. Typically, there isn't a name if you're in the middle somewhere. We usually expect to be either one or the other, but outgoing introverts (or ambiverts) have change the game. The term "outgoing introvert" seems like an oxymoron but there is no other way to describe us. The introvert part is the core of our personality but we have our moments when we like to add some sparkle.
Here are some things outgoing introverts can relate to:
1. You're selectively social
You usually have a harder time being social or outgoing than everybody else.There are a lot of events happening every weekend but you pick and choose which ones you will attend. It usually just depends on who will be at the event. There could be people that you are uncomfortable hanging out with or there could even just be too many people so you just don't want to go. But if you have good company with you, it's going to be a great time!
2. Meeting new people is nerve-wrecking
When you first meet someone new, it involves a lot of self pep-talking, a rehearsed introduction and a few breathing exercises. It is very intimidating when you meet an extroverted person. They radiate so much energy that it overwhelms you.
3. Small talk is the worst
You're the kind of person that will always choose a deep, meaningful conversation over small talk any day. When you have to give small talk, you don't really know where the conversation will end up.
4. At parties, you're quiet and awkward...
Being social is your way of being adventurous. It takes time for you to warm up in a new environment. So you find yourself following your friend around or looking at your phone.
5. ...Until good music is playing
But, there's just something about music that subconsciously make you stand up and dance. And this is when people that aren't close to you see the extroverted side of you.
6. You get all your energy from staying in
You often find yourself physically and mentally exhausted when you've socialized a little too much. Any holiday breaks from school or weekends are your favorites because you get to stay in your bed and recharge. I often compare it to hibernating.
7. Large social settings give you anxiety
When there is a large gathering, it gives you immense distress because there is so many things happening at once. It's very loud from all the conversations and music is probably playing. Once you get to be acquainted with everyone, it eases the anxiety a bit.
8. People mistake you for an extrovert
9. Your close friends usually see the extroverted side of you
It takes a while for you to develop trust with a certain group of people. These are the people that see you do all your embarrassing and quirky things.
10. Being the center of attention is uncomfortable
In a large setting, people are pressured to talk to everyone in the room. But you are content with hanging with the group you came with. When all eyes are on you, your inner introvert comes out and you all of a sudden aren't as outgoing.
11. Always wanting more alone time
There is nothing wrong with going out a lot, but you just rather spend your free time relaxing and hiding in your room. It is very tiresome to be active that you just need that alone time balance everything out.
