If you've ever been in a toxic relationship, you understand the exhaustion of each day. The constant fighting, trust issues, crying, screaming, etc. Trying to hide how much you're hurting from everyone else. Displaying the perfect relationship on social media, but in reality living in a world of pain. How could someone you "love" so much, bring out the absolute worst in you? You try to convince yourself that the good times outweigh the bad - but deep down you know it shouldn't be this way. When you start making excuses for those persons' actions, it can feel like you are losing your identity completely. You start believing ludicrous things because of how bad you've been hurt.
Lie #1: "Maybe I should give them another chance. They will change." This is how the vicious cycle continues. Most likely the thing they did to hurt you, wasn't even worthy of forgiveness. And each time you give them another chance, they always let you down. You keep inviting them back into your life because that's become the new normal. They will never change.
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Lie #2: "Maybe I'm not good looking enough." Yes, both guys and girls struggle with this issue! Especially if your partner cheats on you, it can lead you to believe you are not that physically attractive. This is simply not true. You are a beautiful person, and you will find someone who is fully invested in you and only you. When someone truly loves you, they only have eyes for you.
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Lie #3: "Maybe I cause all of these problems." Chances are if you're thinking this, you know deep down you are not the cause. You are the one making the most effort, while getting minimal to none in return. You would better yourself in any way to make this person see you in the same way that you see them. They are not worth it!
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Lie #4: "Maybe I won't find anyone else." Like they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea! Cheesy but true! And most likely, a good portion of those fish wouldn't leave you feeling emotionally and physically drained. The longer you hold onto this toxic relationship, the more you limit yourself from meeting someone who would treat you wonderfully.
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Lie #5: "Maybe this is how love is supposed to be." No, its not I promise. If someone truly loved you, they would not repeatedly try to destroy you. They would be happy about the accomplishments you have made. They would not cheat on you. They would not try to tear you down.
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Lie #6: "Maybe I deserve this." Absolutely no one deserves this. Sadly we live in a world where some people can only be comfortable with themselves if they bring others down with them. You deserve to be happy, extremely and utterly happy in every way possible. You will never find it with this person.
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All of these lies have a "maybe" placed in the front of them because these views can be changed at any time. By cutting the cord to this relationship, you can discover the truth and find peace within yourself.
