It never fails. Every time I log onto Facebook, I see another person I went to high school with getting engaged or announcing they're pregnant. This letter isn't for those who are getting married shortly after high school. Instead, it's a letter for those who aren't.
Now, everyone has their own opinion about marrying between the ages of 18 and 20. Some people think it's a terrible decision and that those two people are "too young" to have found love simply because those same people didn't. I personally am happy and excited for those I once knew getting married and starting a life with someone they love. It's a precious thing no matter the age.
But for those who aren't getting married right away, don't feel like you're behind in life. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and I love him to pieces, but neither of us is ready to marry or even think about the idea of marriage. Yes, we're young and yes we love each other, but we are both still in the process of figuring out what we want as individuals. I want you to know that if you haven't loved or you aren't in a relationship, it's OK. I dated a total of two guys in high school simply because I didn't think there was anyone worth my time and that's not a bad thing. You should feel like you're worthy and find someone who's just as worthy, if not more for you. Special things take time and you have to go through heartbreaks before you find your forever and that's OK.
Be happy for your friends or high school peers for finding their forever because it really is a beautiful thing to witness. Stop comparing your life to those old friends you stalk on Facebook. Everyone's timeline is different and not everyone has the same plan. Marriage is a big commitment, but doesn't need to happen at a certain age for everyone...or even at all. Really, why should it matter? Don't get me wrong, I look forward to marrying the love of my life because that's what I want, but does it really matter when I do it? All that should matter is that you find someone you want to invest your heart and soul into for the rest of your time on Earth. That's what is important and that's what you should keep in mind. Whether you ever say "I do" or not, all that should matter is that you found the one.
Here's another thing I want to address: if you go through a break up with someone you've dated for years, please don't think you'll never find love again or that it's "too late." It's never too late! Why? Because love does not happen on a timeline nor does it have an expiration date. I can't stress that enough—but I'm going to try. Whether you find your forever at the age of 20 or the age of 60, be happy because you found him or her! Don't sulk when you're single thinking you're going to die alone or that time is running out because it's not; so just remember that.
I personally believe that everything happens for a reason and that everyone is destined to find love and true happiness with a significant other at some point of their lives. In the meantime, live your life, do what you want, and allow things to fall apart so better things can fall together.
Sincerely,
A Friend
