It is definitely hard being this age with all the pressure of having to find a signifianct other as soon as possible. You see the girls with the boyfriend after boyfriend, the girls with the boyfriend or girlfriend of years and the girls with the “friend with benefits.” Whatever that means. Then there are girls like me. It is not to say that I have not had my fair share of feelings for the opposite gender, whether it was someone I went to school, summer camp, or, embarrassingly, a celebrity. However, I have never had a serious relationship. Sometimes I think that isn’t okay. That I am inexperienced in that area and that it is too late for me to find someone. Then, I remember that I’m not even 20.
So why am I writing this exactly? It’s to give other girls, or even boys, like me who have had moments where they think its wrong not to be in a relationship. It is amazing how many of my friends’ relationships I have seen over my years. Most of them have fallen apart. I have always been there to help pick up the pieces and have been more than happy to do it. I have never really had this problem. I’ve had some heart ache but nothing I couldn’t handle on my own. Being lonely if definitely hard sometimes too. You hear the terms, “we’re together but not dating,” and “we only hook up with each other.” It’s so hard to hear this sometimes but I completely understand. You don’t want the commitment because you want to avoid the heartbreak. That’s fine. Personally, I think this is because of the great deal of immaturity that comes from both ends. It gets a little bit tiring to watch. It will take time and everyone needs to stop stressing and getting themselves involved in things that make them unhappy. I know I sound like a therapist but its all true.
So here I am at 19 years old, never in a serious/long term relationship and completely fine. Why is this? I’m waiting for the right person. Someone who gets me. Understands all my crazy obsessions, makes me laugh, is up for spontaneous adventures, doesn’t lie to me, and, most importantly, wants to be around me more than not. I know this is hard to find but I don’t mind waiting. I would rather avoid all these heart-wrenching stories I’ve heard and seen and wait for someone that I really like. I believe that the waiting will lead to something amazing and worthwhile. I will wait for that great guy that my friends and family love and that is what I need in a partner. I’m shy and not very confident so it may take more time but I believe that person is out there for me. For everyone.
If you’re like me, don’t worry. Be happy. Life has just truly begun and with that, comes the love we all hope for. I really hope I’m right. If no other time, then this one.
