To The Girl Who Doesn't Like Herself:
Stop. In today's society, it's easy to see images of beautiful girls and models and want to compare yourself to that, but you can't. There is no reason for you to look like every other beautiful girl. You are beautiful in your own way. As cliche as that sounds, it's the truth. Stop trying to change yourself to become someone else's definition of beautiful. You should fit your own definition. Confidence is believing in yourself and loving everything about you, even your flaws. Stop trying to fit a mold of perfection, because it's impossible.
Your confidence shouldn't be defined by other people's opinions about you. Obviously it's easy to get upset when someone insults the way you look or doesn't find you as cute as you really are. But a wise and beautiful friend once told me, "You can be the ripest, most succulent peach, and someone out there just won't like peaches." There is a lot to take away from that. The way other people see you or judge should have nothing to do with the way you view yourself.
The more you love about yourself, the more people will start to love about you. Confidence is something people admire. If you walk around not thinking you are beautiful, then people will think that too, but if you walk around knowing you're beautiful, then people will see it too. There is no shame in thinking you are pretty.
The most important trait a girl in today's society can have is confidence. Some days are going to be better than others; one day you might wake up and be happy to look in the mirror, while another day you might wake up with a pimple on your nose that makes you look like Rudolph. That's normal, but confidence is being able to own your own skin, no matter the flaws.
I'm not saying I have all the confidence in the world; there have been days when I cringed at the sight of myself or cried to Mom about me being ugly. But now I think to myself, why? There is no changing the way I am. Sure I can make few adjustments, but ultimately this is the way God made me. Why sulk about it rather than own it to my best ability? I promise the reward for owning it is so much better.
So stop judging yourself so harshly, and look in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful. Once you can look at yourself and love it, then everyone around you will join. It all starts with you. Don't let other people change the way you feel about yourself. No one is perfect, not even Beyonce, I know it's hard to believe, but it is true. You will never be perfect, but you can be confident, and that is close enough. So next time someone tells you that you have too much cellulite on your legs, smile and say, "I know and I love it." Once you love your flaws, no one can use them against you. You're indestructibly beautiful.
Sincerely,
Me
