Comparison is something that every girl in the world struggles with. We watch other people and immediately want their clothes, hair, body, or even personality. Most of the time when we do this, we fail to see the beauty that lies within ourselves. Our society praises one type of look and acts like being any different at all is wrong. So here is a letter to the girl that I will NEVER be. And I am writing this to let everyone know that I am okay with that.
We always see people in our lives who appear to have it all together. They are radiantly beautiful, they can eat whatever they want without gaining weight, they have a great relationship, or they have the perfect personality. Yet the interesting thing is that they have the same insecurities as you do. They probably look at you and see something that they wish they had. That is the problem with today's culture. We can never see the beauty that we have because there is always going to be someone that we view as better than us. It has gotten to the point where girls do it without even thinking. We naturally want what we can't have.
There is another end of the spectrum to comparison as well. We also tend to look at others and see all the things we have that are better. Let's be honest here; we do that so that we don't feel as bad about the insecurities we do have. This is an issue too. We hold everyone to that underlying standard and the reality is that it is okay to be different. It is okay to be pretty in your own way. Yet our judgmental eye doesn't see it that way.
This has GOT to change. I am speaking from personal experience here too. Each and every girl out there is beautiful and needs to realize that comparing yourself to another person will only make you miserable. We need to take a good look in the mirror and see the BEAUTY instead of all of the things we wish we could change. In all honesty, this will make you so much happier. You will see that there are some things about yourself that you can't change. And that is okay. If we were all exactly the same, the world would be pretty boring.
So, no. I will never be the girl that has all of the guys fawning over her. I will never be the girl that is super skinny and doesn't have to watch what she eats. But that is okay! It is more than okay. I am me and it is about time I accepted that and looked at who I am as a girl instead of who I am not. I challenge you to do the same thing. Accept the girl that you know you will never be and make a list of all of the wonderful things that you ARE. It is okay to love yourself and that confidence will shine through and inspire others. Don't let the grip of comparison take you down. You ARE beautiful.
