As I go further into my 20's I'm really starting to think seriously about my future and my future family. I know I definitely want children. Whether I have my own or I adopt or both--and whether I have a small family or a large family-- is all still up in the air. But what isn't up in the air is how I want them to grow up.
Dear Future Children,
First and foremost I want my future children to know that mommy loves you unconditionally. I will never stop loving you even when you're screaming that you hate me. I promise I will do whatever I can to make sure that you're happy and healthy all the time. I want you to know that you can come to me with whatever you want to. If you're struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, relationships, work, school, etc. I will do my absolute hardest and best to get you through it and help you with the situation at hand.
Secondly, I will support you with your life choices. I will try to coach you on the right pathway after you decided what you want to do. Whether you want to go to college or not, I will leave it up to you. If you go to college it doesn't matter if you're a science major or an art major, as long as you're happy. If you want to get a job right at 16 or wait until after high school, I will leave it up to you. If you want to travel I will support you and probably call you all the time to check in on you and make sure you're safe and having a great time. If you want to be religious or not I will support you.
I will support and stand by you whether you're straight, gay, bisexual, asexual, transgender, etc. I just want you to be happy, healthy and most importantly comfortable in your own skin. Heck, you can dye your hair purple if you want to, as long as you ask first (if you're not 18 yet), I will let you. If you want to get piercings and tattoos, go for it, it's not going to change how I look at you.
If you want to get into photography, play sports, sing, dance, play an instrument, write, act, or whatever else you can think of, I will let you. I will be at all your games, I will be at your recitals and competitions, I will be at all your plays, I will be at your concerts. Most importantly I will be your biggest supporter.
But just because I'm letting you pick what you do and what makes you happy doesn't mean I'm going to let you do whatever you want all the time. There will be rules. You will have to help around the house, you will be polite to others, you will try your hardest in school, you will have a crew few, you will not use foul language around adults, children or myself, you will not be violent and you will be open-minded. My children will not be closed minded hot messes. You will respect others and their decisions, just as I have for you. You are not to trash talk others because they are different from you. Different doesn't mean they are bad.
But for now, I'm patiently waiting for the day we get to meet. It'll be years in the future but years seem to fly by the older I get. Soon enough, I'll be hugging and kissing you 24/7, because yes I'm going to be that mom! Soon enough we'll meet and have a loving supporting family. So until then...
XOXO Your Future Mom
