We all go on Snapchat and read the discover section, and one day scrolling through the Buzzfeed section, I ran into an incredible poet piece. It was titled "That Girl" by Daysha Edewi, and after listening to this piece, each word Edewi said I was able to relate to.

"I’ve never been that girl; that girl who comes out of a relationship, and instantly finds herself in another. Effortlessly. Like it was destiny. I guess it was just never destined for me to be that girl. That girl who never stops having people confess their unyielding love for them; that girl who people can’t stop talking about how pretty they are; that girl who can get guys to buy her a drink at the bar; all at the smack of her patent leather soft lips and a little hair flip. Effortlessly. Like it was destiny. I guess it was just never destined for me to be that girl. That girl who knows how to flirt properly; that girl who can put her make up on flawlessly that girl who can post a photo to instagram, and not find a million insecurities lurking at the tips of her fingers as she presses the share button. And I know I shouldn’t let these things define my femininity. I know that I shouldn’t let these things bother me but they do. It’s like having a lack of male attention in this world is seen as an abnormality. It’s seen as less than womanly. And I’m always forced to ask myself what’s wrong with me? But maybe it’s because I was never destined to be that girl. Maybe it’s because I was destined to be something more; to be that girl who just lives her life; that girl who loves herself for who she is and doesn’t rely on male attention to make herself feel alright. That girl who knows what she wants and fights until it’s hers That girl who still has insecurities, but at the end of the day just says whatever because we all know who runs the world. Yeah, I want to be that girl."

I see girls go in and out of relationships fast and find another, fall back in and out of love, have boys following them left and right and not leaving them alone. While I struggle about worrying about having friends or people that will like me for who I am. I wake up in the morning naming every flaw a girl can ever have, and spend a long time trying to hide just for a while to feel pretty, and even then it's sometimes not enough.

There are countless times when I tell myself I'm not good enough, I'm not pretty enough, I'm not skinny enough, I'm not smart enough, to be loved by anyone. Who can love me as much as I want? The only answer is me. I learned that no one can love me more than me. As a child, I loved everything around me, even myself. It was such a simpler time as I remember, and through time and interaction with the real world, I began to despise myself. Don't we all?

I struggle to find the me that loves me but it's hard to find her and listen to what she says, but she's always there when I need her. I'm the only person I'll ever truly have, I'm the only one who can't lie to me, hurt me or do any harm to my own self. There isn't a makeup product that will cover up what I'm passionate about, and a miracle cream that will smooth my kindness. When I deal with the petty insults others give me about how I look or what I've done, I re-examine myself and find that I love me and to remind and tell me that I am more than just my looks. We all have that one quality that we're proud of. I'm proud of my smile and would not change it for the world. It doesn't have to be a visible quality, it can be a personality wise. I'm proud of being humble and kind. I am worth each beautiful thought I think of myself, more than any flaw I focus on and that I can't erase for days.

I always forget to love myself, I always forget to remind myself of the best things there are about me. It gets lost when I focus on everything I'm not and wish to be. But no matter what the media says perfect is, how being skinny, nice, having abs, or long is what I need to be, it is not who I am. When person judges me for the things I've done, for things I have said, for my past, present or future, it might hurt to hear it, but no matter how many words they can use to define me, it is not who I am. No matter the gender, looks, weight, skin, actions, because those standards do not define me, they do not define who I am, because I know who I am.

Never listen to any credentials someone else establishes besides you. I am a goddamn treasure, I am a goddamn prize, I am a goddamn miracle in this world whether anyone wants to believe it or not, and so are you. I love myself for who I am, I love myself for being me, I love myself for everything I have ever done and will do. Always love yourself for being you.