It's no secret that we as humans want to be successful and we want to be noticed. There is nothing wrong with wanting these things, but I am here to tell you that if you are a people-pleaser, your tendencies may either help or hurt you to be these things.
People pleasing is something that I have discovered I do a lot. My tendencies come and go and sometimes it benefits me and sometimes it hurts me.
I believe we all strive to be successful, but it depends on how willing you are to work your way to the top. These are just some of the tendencies that I have when it comes to people pleasing.
1. I can never say no when someone asks me to pick up their shift.
Lately I've done this many times because the spring semester is still ongoing so there are people who can't work morning shifts because of college classes. I picked up a shift the other day not even realizing that it was my only day off in 9 days straight. I honestly just picked it up because I knew that my managers needed the extra body at work and I didn't want to disappoint.
2. I do the things my manager asks of me, but more importantly, the things they don't ask me to do.
I find myself throughout the day doing things that I'm suppose to do, but then I go the extra mile because I know it will impress my managers. I don't want to be that person who just shows off or is an over achiever, but I do want to be a hard worker, so I think that's where my motivation is really stemming from.
3. I'm running late for work and start speeding because I don't want my managers to think poorly of my work ethic.
I've been late to work twice before and it was literally a horrible day because all I could think about was what I did wrong and what my managers were thinking. I want to be the team member that takes her job seriously and works hard to keep it.
4. I avoid vulnerability because I don't want to seem weak.
I've shown up to class or to school sick and feeling terrible mostly because I didn't want to look vulnerable. I know my managers can't find someone to cover my shift out of the blue, so to save them the trouble, I just go in and deal with it.These tendencies may not even be associated with people pleasing, but I know for sure that the only reason I do them is because I want to help and I honestly can't NOT do something to make
someone's life a little easier.
I really just want to be a hard worker and someone who does whatever possible to make others around them happy, whether it be picking up a shift, or helping someone talk through a problem without bringing up my own issues.
Maybe you'll find some success in your tendencies and they might pay off for you one day. For now, it just seems like I'm spinning my wheels trying to please others when it takes a toll on me the most. A people pleaser's gotta do what they gotta do, whether they can help it or not.