I remember sitting in AP English Language junior year of high school wondering why in the world my teacher wanted us to write a letter about what we look for in a significant other. At the time all I could really think about was why would this even matter later in life, but now I see how important 17-year-old me words actually were.
While some of my thoughts have progressed throughout the years, some of these words still stick true to what I still believe a soulmate should be.
Robin Williams once said, " Divorce is expensive. I used to joke they were going to call it 'all the money,' but they changed it to 'alimony.'" He had a legitimate reason for saying this, considering how painful all the paperwork and loses are during a divorce. This was true for one couple who thought that they had it all figured out until they realized that they didn't.
They would bicker so much, that even their normal conversations would sound like a battle. So, they got divorced just a year after their marriage, but by doing this they had to face a ton of difficult decisions. They lost everything when they just weren't meant to be and that caused their whole world to collapse at their fingertips.
Just imagine, thinking you've found the one person you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with and then suddenly you're all alone because they weren't the one for you.
For this reason, I've decided to make an outline of what I would look for in a soulmate. This will hopefully save me the trouble in the future of a messy divorce.
My future soulmate MUST be someone humorous.
Someone who knows how to make appropriate jokes at the right time. There's a huge difference between being humorous and just being rude.
I personally want a guy who makes me laugh when I'm sad and laughs at my jokes even if they aren't as humorous as I'd hope. It's important to be with someone who shares your sense of humor. Why be with someone boring and be miserable?
Since I was a music student in high school, ambition is something I've never lacked, and wouldn't want my soulmate to lack it either. I have high aspirations for my future, and I personally wouldn't feel comfortable being the only one with big dreams in a relationship.
Therefore, my soulmate would need to have ambition. He would have to have the drive to reach his goals without fear of failure. To have ambition doesn't just mean to have a desire to achieve something, it means you give it your all when it comes to reaching goals.
Another extremely important factor in any relationship is support.
A soulmate should be the person you come to when you need encouraging words that inspire you to do your best, not someone who laughs at your problems. Being supportive also means being understanding of the world around you and to have a general knowledge of it.
Someone who doesn't care for my religious beliefs, what I aspire to do in the future or others opinions is not someone who I would want to be in a relationship with, let alone marry. My soul mate wouldn't have to share the same beliefs or goals that I have, but he would have to be understanding of them.
A soulmate is someone that you will spend your whole life with, which is why a person must carefully look for things they would prefer in theirs. Although, I do personally believe that fate will bring you the one person you're supposed to spend your life with. You don't have to go actively searching for the person whom you'll be with, you just have to let life find a way of them finding you.
Of course, making a list of characteristics for the perfect soulmate helps, but when it comes down to it you don't have full control over who your soulmate will be. Let fate run its course, and you'll end up with the person who is just right for you.
