I struggled so much with how to write this letter — what I wanted to say, what should I say, how and what I want others to take away from this letter. I think that it in itself means something — that I still care. We all do.
I care that we lost touch and I'm sad for whatever reason it was that we stopped talking and keeping in touch because you were once a big part of my life.
I truly am a person that believes people always enter and leave one’s life with a purpose. But I also believe that they can re-enter with a new purpose or you can go after that lost friend and pull them back into your life. Letting that friend go may be the right answer, but so could starting a new friendship with an old friend. And with each friendship lost, I am still trying to figure out where do I want to go with each friendship...
To the friend I miss:
I don’t want to analyze the past, or pinpoint where it all went downhill and whose fault it was. I grew up and I do not want to go back to the way things were. But I am here. I know a lot has happened, and nothing can change that – but I really do think of you from time to time. And if it’s okay with you, feel free to reach out in any way if you want. I promise to answer. Because I still care, I am still here.
What I suppose I want you to know is that deep down, in a mess, late at night, or anytime really, I do think of you. And I will still be here. It may be subtle, but I still care so I am curious how you are doing, what's new, etc. I may be hesitant to reach out. But I still care.
I just show my “care” in the weirdest of ways. It's actually hilarious to watch how awkward I get trying to reach out and just show a small bit of kindness. But then I think, why should I be self-conscious about reaching out to a former friend? It's silly when you think about it, especially if you really miss that person or can’t stop laughing at the memories of how much fun you had and wish they were there to reminisce with you.
To the friend that taught me a lesson but I don’t want to look back:
I am sorry things panned out the way they did. And I wish you nothing but happiness in your life. And I do care about you, but I find solace in knowing that you can take care of yourself. I think we have taught one another what were supposed to and that’s it, so I will bow out gracefully.
Friendships evolve in the most peculiar of ways and life takes us in different directions, but if you have a thought of that old friend, take a second to write them a tweet or tag them in something funny on Facebook, or even a Snapchat — something to reach out.
BE BOLD FRIENDS. Think of all the ups and downs Blair and Serena had?
