There's nothing to be ashamed of, we've all had one. That one guy that always seems to worm his way back into your life, no matter how many times you say you're done. You probably wonder why you're even talking to him again, it's not like you chose to let that good-for-nothing loser back in to waste your own time. Chances are, he slithered back in through a crack in the door that you forgot to shut and lock tight.
He's persistent, you can give him that. No matter how many times you "ghost" him or decide not to respond, he keeps trying until his phone screen lights up with your name (and like 10 other girls', probably). It's like he sees it as a game and ignoring him only raises the stakes. So how do you win that game? Blocking him seems excessive; he's harmless after all. He just wastes your time, really, and maybe pisses you off a little bit.
But he can be nice to you. When he isn't annoying you or being degradingly sarcastic, he can be super sweet. He asks you about your day, tells you he's happy for your successes and seems genuinely interested. But you can bet all those questions are being stored up as ammunition for something down the road. It's either going towards a) a booty call or b) being able to tell his friends allll about "you and him".
In the end, it's safe to say he's probably a f*ckboy. Your name is one of many on his Snapchat and he cares more about saying you guys are "close" than actually being close to you.
As a general rule, you know if he's hitting you up he's definitely lonely and desperate.
You know all this and are well aware of his intentions. I'd tell you to make a pros and cons list, but I know you already know the outcome.
So why are you messaging this loser back on a Tuesday night?
Everybody asks that, but they don't get it and honestly neither do you. The truth is it's a lot of things. Sometimes you're lonely just like him. Sometimes you just give in and respond because it's exhausting to ignore him.
He is so ridiculously persistent, if only he applied that to his grades. Sometimes you even feel kind of bad, after all he's not a bad person, just a pain. Sometimes you don't know why but whatever, you don't owe anyone an excuse.
Regardless of your reasons, it's time to cut him out. He only brings you down, so he shouldn't get to bask in your success with you as if it's his own. It's going to be tough sometimes, but stay strong.
You don't need him, you don't want him, and he doesn't add literally anything good to your life. I honestly can't promise you he'll back off in time, but the longer you withstand his cries of desperation, the better you'll feel.
And if you cave, don't feel bad.
Indulging his late-night booty calls - or whatever the heck they are- won't kill you. Just hop back on your horse then ride far and fast into the sunset.
Just make sure you go quickly; you and I both know he's got no shame and way too much resilience so he won't be too far behind.
Sincerely,
A girl with a ~that guy~ of her own to shake.
