This summer I had the privilege of knowing a boy who, for all differences aside, seemed to be "the one." What I was unprepared for was as the temperature dropped lower and the leaves changed another color, he left. I was devastated. I begged, pleaded, and with all my might wished on everything that he would stay. For months after I was a mess, emotionally and physically. I had become so invested in him that without his love, attention, and affection I didn't know who I was. Now, I am at point where if I could say anything to him I would say thank you. When people leave you, you should let them.
Now, I know I may sound crazy or flat stupid to some, and I may sound as if I didn't really truly love this boy, but I did, and that was the problem. I was so focused on someone else that I forgot to focus on myself. When I loved him, I did not love me. So when he left, I was drained. Ultimately I was lost and it took months to feel OK again, but during those months I was challenged to my brink and I learned the most important lesson: the ones worth fighting for will not leave. If someone leaves you, let them go.
I cannot stress this enough to you: if someone loves you, if someone cares about you, if someone wants you in their life, they will not leave you. Think about it: if you want someone in your life, you're going to put them there and do everything to keep them in your daily life. You should let them leave, because people like that are not ones you need in your life. People who make no effort to stay once things get tough are never going to stay, and there's no amount of pleas or bargains that you can make to convince them.
You need people who come and stay. Your life is not comparable to a revolving door -- people should not be allowed to come and go as they please. If someone leaves you, let them go and don't let them come back. You should not be subjected to people who cannot make up their minds, nor people who come back to you because you're a "safe" option. It will not be easy. There will be moments when you will think about all the great memories you two share, but realize they are just that. They are just memories. There's going to be moments of loneliness that knock on your life at late parts of the night, and it will hurt. However, that cannot compare to the pain that the person will bring you if you let them come and go at their own leisure. Believe me when I say you are worth so much more than that. Let them leave you, and let them see how great you are without them.
