Naturally, we are all control freaks. We have to have control over everything in our lives, or it feels like we are living in some sort of mass chaos. Let alone, if we are letting somebody else hold that control over our lives, we are mentally distraught. I'm here to tell you, that it's okay to not have total control. It's okay to let go, and let God handle our lives.
Where does God fit in your life? Is he first, second, third... last? Ask yourself this important question, and you will begin to understand. Be really honest with yourself, if God is last, admit it and be able to make a change. However, you need to realize, if you are placing your relationship with God on the back burner you may be too distracted with your earthly relationships.
God knows the difference between who you want and who you need in your life.
God has a way of showing you seasonal and permanent people. Sometimes, the permanent people will turn out to only be seasonal. The boyfriend that you thought was going to be around forever, that you would marry. The friend who ended up leaving you when thing get bad. No matter who it is, no matter what they've done, don't blame yourself or question what you could have done better- believe in God's plan. Sometimes you might question "Why did God take this person away from me?" or "What did I do to deserve this?" When you begin to have doubts in yourself, questioning "Was I enough?"
Don't. You are enough.
Sometimes, people just don't fit into God's plan for you. God knows your path, and He knows their path, and most likely it's not a good fit for you. God also see's peoples intentions with you. He knows that some people are only looking to fit you into their own agenda, and forget about yours. Unfortunately, sometimes people who kick you down, never have an intention of picking you back up. That's where God comes in. He will pick you up, and put you on the correct path with the correct people.
Once you are able to release the responsibility of control over your life and the people in it, you will begin to see the changes in yourself. Life gets hard, things change and go unexpectedly. Trust that God has your best in mind, and allow him to take the reins.
"But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; it's leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit."