Falling in love is one of the greatest and scariest things a human being could ever do. Loving someone means giving all of yourself to another person and hoping that they take care of what you’ve given them. When your love doesn’t handle your heart with care, you often find yourself in a deep sadness. This is a sadness that everyone can relate to, because heartbreak doesn’t discriminate. No matter who you are at least once in your life you will experience the gut wrenching pain that can bring anyone to their knees. Heartbreak will shatter anyone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be put back together again.
The old saying is, “Time will heal all things.” This holds the most truth when dealing with the open wounds that are inflicting the most pain on you. But this pain isn’t everlasting. All the suffering you go through after a break up just means you really did love that person. Heartbreak teaches you that what you had with that person was real. All those nights of tossing and turning, trying to get your brain to turn off the memories of that one person hasn’t gone to waste. All the tears you shed and mascara you wasted actually had a purpose. Finding the silver linings in all these situations may seem impossible, and you may read this and wonder how in the hell these things could better you. I am here to tell you that moving on from this hurt will only better the times that you share with other treasured people in your life.
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our relationships we seem to forget those who mean so much to us. Family and friends sometimes don’t get the attention they deserve from us; not to mention we are so enclosed in our own little world/love life we forget to even think about meeting new people. Experiencing a heartbreak can really open up your eyes to these problems. Once our world comes crashing down around us we tend to run to those who love us unconditionally and have only our best interest at heart. Of course, they welcome us with open arms to make us feel better, but in that moment you truly realize how much you’ve neglected them. This really brings you back down to Earth and you learn for the future not to make the same mistake.
Another positive of break ups is the time you spend with yourself afterwards. After giving yourself to someone and constantly having to do things with him or her in mind, it gets tiring. Being able to focus on who you are and what you want to get out of life really helps you to grow as a person. Be sure to not rush right back into a relationship, because the truth is you probably don’t really like the person. You are probably just trying to fill the emotional void that has been placed upon you. Just take time and find yourself. You can’t be loved again until you can love yourself.
Even after you become an emotional train wreck for a little while, you will come to find that you have grown from the experience and will have one more life lesson under your belt. However, growing from this experience doesn’t mean keeping your guard up completely. Of course, you will be more hesitant to date again and be a bit more defensive when talking to someone new, but always remember falling in love requires falling.
