What They Didn't Tell You About Growing Up

What They Didn't Tell You About Growing Up

Sometimes, a person has to experience their own way of growing up that they can't prepare for.


Everyone is forced to grow up, it's a part of life. One of the hardest parts of growing up (for me anyway) is that it is forced upon you, you have to do it. Once you reach a certain age, your parents, your friends and society tell you, "okay, it's time to go out on your own now, good luck." That's pretty scary when you think about it, how you went through your whole life always having your support system nearby, living comfortably at home, then all of a sudden, your child years end. For me, they ended the day I graduated from high school. I turned over my tassel and in doing so, I turned over a new chapter of my life. This may sound corny but it's true. By turning my tassel from one side to the other, I inadvertently said goodbye to one chapter of my life and said hello to a brand new one that seemed insanely scary.

Since growing up is such a big deal it helps to have a strong support system to help guide you through it. That being said, while your mom or whomever you live with will try to the best of their ability to help inform you on growing up, some things you just have to experience to learn from on your own.

For example, I remember when I was sixteen and I told my mom I really wanted a perm. I have naturally straight hair and I have always been awful when it comes to styling my hair; meaning I never curl it and when I try to, it always looks nothing like how I had intended. So, I told my mom I wanted a perm so my hair would be curly all the time and I wouldn't have to curl it again. She agreed with my logic and within the next few days, I was at my hair salon getting a perm.

Now, if you've never gotten a perm let me tell you, it's not a quick and easy process and my mom knew that. From start to finish, I was in the salon for about six hours. Having my hair rolled up in curlers, being drenched in perm solution, and even having the solution rinsed out of my hair with the curlers still intact (this was one of the most painful experiences I had ever had).

I remember when it was all said and done, I asked my mom why in the world she didn't tell me about the extensive process and she said, "If I told you, then I thought you wouldn't have done it." I'll always remember that. My mom had gotten perms in the past, so she knew what to expect but she didn't tell me so I had no opportunity to chicken out just because I would have been too afraid.

This is just a small example of how sometimes you just have to experience things in order to learn and grow up. Hearing advice from others definitely aids in the whole growing up process, but at the end of the day, your life is different from theirs, not in a bad way, but you will most likely experience things differently just because no two people are exactly the same. So, don't read this and yell at your mom for not providing enough information on what happens after you graduate high school or what to expect at college or even what the perm process is, because she gave you all the information she could and you have to do the other part by experiencing it for yourself.

I'm probably not the first to tell you that growing up is hard and I probably won't be the last. Another hard part about growing up for me is watching your friends and family grow older with you. Especially when you're away at college or have moved out and don't see your family and friends as much and then when you do, you notice subtle changes within them. This isn't a bad thing, no person stays the exact same for their whole life, but it can also be a little hard, watching the people around you grow and change and there's nothing you can do about it. Also, your friends and family will most likely see some changes within you that you probably didn't realize were there.

Growing up is hard for everyone, but everyone has to do it. So many things come along with growing up, you change and mature and experience new things and the people around you are doing the same.

Growing up is also an interesting process to me. It's slow but fast all at the same. When you reflect how you've grown up in say, one year, you most likely envision a different version of yourself than how you are today and are amazed how fast that one year went by.

So, sure growing up is difficult, to say the least, but a lot of positive outcomes come from growing up, like meeting new people, experiencing new things, gaining more knowledge and becoming wiser, and so much more. Furthermore, try being grateful that you have the opportunity to grow up and continue learning because every day is a gift that isn't promised.

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17 Ideas To Do On Your 22nd Birthday

When you're feeling 22, but need ideas of what to do.

"It seems like one of those nights. This place is too crowded, too many cool kids uh uh, uh uh. It seems like one of those nights. We ditch the whole scene and end up dreaming instead of sleeping...Yeah. We're happy free confused and lonely in the best way. It's miserable and magical oh yeah. Tonight's the night when we forget about the heartbreaks, it's time uh oh

o you don't know what to do for your 22nd birthday? You think, hey, I just turned 21 last year and got shwasted because I could finally 'legally' drink alcohol. So 22, isn't that big so what do I do to celebrate my 22nd birthday? Well for one, every birthday should be important to you because it's your day, a day that's all about you and it's the day that you were given life. You should celebrate every year because it's another year that you have lived, right? Why can't your 22nd be a bang, why couldn't your 22nd be bigger and better than maybe your 21st, 18th, or 16th? Here are some ideas that you could do on your 22nd if you're having a brain fart.

1. Get your friends together and go to a nice dinner

Food can never go wrong on your birthday.

2. Go to the movies

Go see the latest movie out, grab some popcorn and soda and have a friend tag along.

3. Dave and Busters

Arcade games for adults?! Enough said.

4. Go on a weekend trip somewhere

You have been dying to go somewhere for awhile, why can't your birthday be the perfect time to go on a getaway?

5. Take the day off from work/school

It's your BIRTHday, no need to work or go to school, it's your day to celebrate you and you don't need to work your butt off on that day.

6. Happy Hour with friends/family

Appetizers and beers, what else could you want?

7. Go to a brewery

Grab some brews with a couple of friends, be social on your day!

8. Bar/club scene

If you are into going down to the strip to go to a club or a bar to get wild, just do it on your birthday!

9. Have a beach party (if your birthday is in the summer)

Waves, sand, beach games, sounds like a blast to me!

10. Go go-karting

Who says you can't be a kid?

11. Trampoline park

Trampolines everywhere, dodgeball and basketball, why not do it on your birthday?

12. Winery

13. Go hiking

Why not see beautiful scenery on your special day?

14. Go to breakfast or brunch

If you love breakfast and lunch,combine them and grab a mimosa or a bloody mary while you're at it.

15. Do a spa day

Need relaxation and a little getaway, a spa day is perfect.

16. Get a hotel

Hotel on the beach? Where everything is in sight, why not?

17. Break out into your song of the day,

"I don't know about you but I'm feeling 22. Everything will be alright if you keep me next to you. You don't know about me, but I bet you want to. Everything will be alright if we just keep dancing like we're 22 uh uh ah ah ah 22 uh uh uh" by the one and only TayTay Swift

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If You Learn Anything From Toddlers, Let It Be These 10 Things

Ask permission later.


Toddlers are absolutely reckless but their chaos has taught me some valuable things. My family is big to say the least. I may be an only child but I'm surrounded by cousins I consider siblings and their kids have such a special place in my heart. Even before they could speak, they taught me some of the most valuable things. I guess it's true that actions speak louder than words.

1. Laughter is the purest form of happiness.

I don't know about you, but the toddlers in my life are full of laughter. Everything is funny to them, even their own laughter.

2. Live like nobody is watching.

If their favorite song comes out, they dance even if they are walking on the street. They live their lives and they dont care if people dance with them or critique their steps.

3. Sometimes, people need hugs

Toddlers are super adorable and when they run up to you simply to hug you and say your name, that feeling of stress seems to fade, even if its just for a split second

4. You are never too old to play with toys.

We grow up and suddenly forget about toys and playing around, but toys are meant for all ages

5. Tea parties are a must.

Tea parties are absolutely amazing. You get to dress up, paint your nails, and drink some delicious tea, what's not to love.

6. Overcome your fears.

Imagine being a new human in this world with either less or a little more than 1000 days on this planet and figuring things out.

7. A piece of chocolate is good for the soul.

No matter the hourI am not a huge sweets fan but you bet my ass that if a toddler hands me chocolate, I am taking it. Weirdly, they always sense when I need it most

8. Take a break.

Toddlers are super active and constantly moving around, but once they are worn out, they take a break and go to bed.

9. Love others.

Toddlers become pretty close to you if you let them and they are extremely loving

10. Ask permission later.

Toddlers do as they want and when they want. They would rather have a good time now and then get in trouble for having already experienced it

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