As people, we love to love. The feeling of having someone always by your side, always caring is more than amazing. Sometimes, unfortunately, those relationships come to an end. After being constant with a person, loving someone, and being as emotionally vulnerable as you can possibly be, when that relationship does come to an abrupt halt you are devastated, and in a sense lost. We have all had our hearts broken at least once, so we all must know that we are stronger than what we think. I have been through my own fair share of heartbreaks and with the knowledge that I had left each relationship with, it made me realize a few things that I really feel I need to share.
1. There is life without a significant other.
You may feel as if the world is crashing down around you, but you will emerge from the rubble and see how beautiful the world is and how much you need to see more of it. There are so many things to see and so much to do. Now you may need to pull yourself up out of that rubble but it will be OK.
2. You are still a wonderful person.
We will often doubt our own self-worth after a relationship has ended, especially if the relationship ended because your significant other was being unfaithful. After having someone go behind your back to choose someone else, you may question what qualities you're lacking. Firstly, you are not lacking any superb qualities. You are amazingly awesome in your own special way. The person your S.O. decided to cheat on you with isn’t better than you, they are just different. It doesn’t make you any lesser of a person; you are wonderful inside and out.
3. Cliché time: There are plenty of fish in the sea.
I know, I know. This cliché phrase is said a lot, but it is said a lot because it is extremely accurate. That one person is one fish out of over seven billion. It is remarkable how many people that this planet holds, and sure it may not have worked out with one of them, but there are so many to choose from. More importantly, one person should not ruin all ideas surrounding romance for you.
4. Not everyone in the gender you are looking to date is evil.
Like I said, there are over seven billion people in the world. Not all of them are going to be bad. Now sure, there are good and bad people everywhere but it is important not to become so bitter you refuse to realize that there are good people out in the world. We tend, as people, to often become extremely pessimistic toward all people, but don’t let one bad relationship turn you into one of the bitter people we all hate when you are looking to date someone.
5. Don’t feel a need to rush into a new relationship.
I know that after my worst break up my first thought was “I need to get back at him by dating someone better.” All that mentality got me was a ton of unwanted frustration and hatred of myself. No. 1, a relationship shouldn’t have a foundation built off of revenge. No. 2, if you really want to get back at them just go out and be happy. That will show that person that you truly are better off without them. And finally, figure out who you are and what you want before you figure out someone else.
I may not be a love expert, but I have learned from the mistakes I’ve made, which is what inspired me to write this article. Learn from my mistakes and come out of reading this article knowing more to make you realize that a breakup is only as bad as you make it. As Barney Stinson from "How I Met Your Mother" said, “when I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.” So get out there and be awesome.
