It's OK To Lean On The People Who Lean On You

It's OK To Lean On The People Who Lean On You

We all need somebody to lean on.


We've all heard it; when life gives you lemons make lemonade, but what happens when the lemons start to pile up and overtake your kitchen?

Do you let the sour fruit get you down?


You recruit your girl gang and start a lemonade stand.

Real friends are there for each other, they will pick you up when you're down but they can't help you unless you let them know what's going on.

If you're anything like me, you thrive of off helping your friends when they're in need. You're the person they turn to when it all becomes too much and you've created deep relationships by being there for them and figuring it out together.

Still, you're hesitant to turn to them when you could use a friend to help you put the pieces back together.

This isn't a reflection of your friends' ability to be a friend to you at all. You know they're trustworthy, nonjudgemental, and would do whatever they could to help you work things out. This is your own stubbornness telling you that you don't need anyone's help and that you can handle things on your own.

An attempt by your subconscious to prove to yourself that you are strong.

Asking for help and opening up to the people closest to you isn't a sign of weakness, in fact, it's the opposite.

It's a sign of strength and maturity.

Being able to ask for help means that you understand that you are not the wisest.

Vulnerability invites growth and being open to taking other's advice is how you learn.

You decide the direction your life goes but you don't have to be the captain that goes down with the ship because you were too full of pride to let others help you.

We all know life gets overwhelming, but you'll see it's not half as bad when you lean on your friends the way they lean on you.

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13 Thoughts We've All Had While Living In A Dorm

I can't remember what a normal shower feels like.

1. "I'm starving but there's nothing to eat and I don't want to walk to the dining hall."

2. "I can't remember what a normal shower feels like."

3. "I bet I could go another whole week without doing laundry."

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4. "I don't remember what I feels like to be rested."

5. "My neighbors are soooo annoying."

6. *tries unconventional ways to create more space*

7. "What's that smell?"

8. "I don't even know how to start cleaning up this room."

9. "I'm ready for a shower that doesn't have other people's hair stuck to the wall."

10. *sees someone taking up three different washing machines*

11. Having friends over in the dorm:

12. "Everyone in my dorm is sick so I'm probably next."


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Four Quarters Will Always Be Better Than Ten Dimes, And I'm Not Talking About Spare Change

Quality over quantity any damn day.


"You would rather have four quarters than 10 dimes, 20 nickels, or 100 pennies," is a phrase that at first glance would seem to just be about money. But it actually contains a deeper meaning that could definitely serve as good advice when it comes to the friendships you have in your life.

As an ambivert, I have always found myself happier when I surrounded myself with a large group of friends. It gives you a sense of belonging, something that is a proven innate human desire. Having large groups can be fun, but they also equally have the chance of being toxic for you. There's no point in surrounding yourself with individuals if, at the end of the day, they don't make you happy. Often times you'll hang out with people just because you crave company, but not THEIR company. There is a very important distinction.

Don't let your loneliness or your desire for more friends allow you to be consumed into toxic friendships. Because I have been there and done that. Many times. It's not a fun experience. It took me time to learn, but I have learned the valuable lesson of less being more. When you eliminate extraneous beings from your life, you have more time to focus on your more important relationships and the most crucial one of all, the one you have with yourself.

I am very blessed to say that people that I am close to in my life genuinely care for me and my happiness because this was not always the case. It takes a lot of trial and error, and also greatly impacts your mental health, but finding the right friend group for you is definitely life-changing.

Choose your friends wisely, you don't want a wallet full of useless change.

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