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In Order To Make New Year Resoutions I Need To Look Back On The 10 Things I Learned In 2018

Looking back on 2018 and moving on 2019


For a lot of people, 2018 was a bit rough but it was also a year of learning lessons and new things. Now it is 2019 and people are ready for the New Year and are making resolutions for themselves. In order to make resolutions for 2019, we need to look back at what we learned in 2018. The best thing about a new year is you get to change your life based on the year prior. So, here are ten things I learned during the year of 2018.

1. Sometimes the costs never end


In 2018, my car kept on needing to be fixed and that gets very pricey, in fact, right at the end of 2018 it finally crashed and now I am looking to pay for a new one. There were college costs and parking tickets/speeding tickets (moral of that story is park where you should and don't speed, kids). It seemed like once I saved up money it had to go towards something but that is life because most things cost money and money doesn't grow on trees.

2. Somethings just don't go your way


There were a lot of changes within in my college career that was out of my control. For most of my college career, I planned to study abroad but then found out my classes up there were canceled. That was a big bummer but on the bright side, it allowed me to graduate sooner than planned. It showed that no matter how much you plan for something, it doesn't always work out or go your way and that's okay.

3. Not everyone is going to like you


I was somebody who always wanted to get along with everyone but there are some people who just don't want to get along with you and that's okay. The best thing you can do is kill them with kindness because it doesn't say anything against you and you should never change yourself. The real friends are the ones that are going to like you for you.

4. You should always find time to do the things you love


On top of work, school and other responsibilities, it is hard to enjoy your hobbies because you can't find time for it. Whether it is reading a book, going on a hike or for me, writing. Sometimes you need to find ways to make time for it or else, you feel like you have lost apart of yourself.

5. Family and friends are more important than anything


Money and stress can cause people to shy away and shut people out and it is important to not shut out your loved ones because compared to them money and stress is nothing. Yes, it is real but it is the least important thing in your life.

6. You should fight for what you believe in


You should fight for what you believe in even if others don't believe the same as you do. I am not saying go out and start some fights but use your voice and whatever platform you have even if it is small. Nothing will ever change unless you do something about it. Even if you think you are little old you, you are capable of more than you know.

7. Open your mind and learn new things


Recently, I have been interested in learning about different religions and different ideas. No matter what your religion is, it's okay to open your mind and learn about other ones. Our brains are capable of more than we use and it is important to expand them with information and learn new things. It forms us into the people we are and can help you find you are.

8. Remember the little things


During stressful times you can get in a funk and that is when it is important to remember all the good things such as family and friends. Small trips you have taken, how pretty nature is or listening to your favorite bands and watching your favorite movies. It is the little things in life that make us the happiest.

9. Travel as much as you can


It is important to see more than what it around you. Even if it is small trips like hiking or visiting a town that is somewhat near you. Even though I didn't get to study abroad, I used a little bit of money to travel to New Orleans which was amazing. Traveling can help you find a bit of yourself, especially when you are in college because maybe you will come across somewhere you will want to settle down in.

10. You don't have to fight your battles alone


A lot of people like to keep their problems hidden and fight their battles alone because they are afraid of people knowing that they have them. That can work for a while but if you keep things locked in, it begins to eat away at you. You won't believe the relief you feel when you share your battles with at least one person. It helps a lot to have somebody to talk to whether it is a parent or a friend. I understand the feeling of need to keep it locked in but you don't have to and it's better when you don't.

I hope you all related to the list and I wish all of you a happy New Year. I hope all of your 2019 resolutions come true. Work hard and love harder. Remember to take care of yourself because that is where you will find the most improvements. Don't lose your happiness to stress and live your year to the fullest.

Happy 2019 everyone.

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23 Woman Empowerment Quotes To Remind You 2018 Will Be Your Best Year Ever

Time to show 2018 what you're made of!

2017 may not have been our favorite year or our worst year. It may have even been a great year for some of you. As a new year approaches, it's a good time to reflect on all the things you have done and all the things you are going to do in the new year.

Start bullet journaling, learn a new language, read a classic literature book, take a road trip to the mountains or give up sugar. (Ha!)

2018 is going to be your best year yet and in case you're not convinced here are some quotes to remind you of how awesome you are.

1. "She will rise. With a spine of steel, and a roar like thunder, she will rise." - Nicole Lyons

2. "Nah" - Rosa Parks

3. "And the princess lived happily ever after in her own big castle with all of her own money and she took care of herself. The end."

4. "You don't find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then find a man who's worthy of you. Remember that." - Miracle

5. "We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty." - Maya Angelou

6. "Here's to strong women. May we know them, we may be them, may we raise them." Stacey Bendet

7. "I found I was more confident when I stopped trying to be someone else's definition of beautiful and started being my own." - Remington Miller

8. "she is water. powerful enough to drown you, soft enough to cleanse you, deep enough to save you." -Adrian Michael

9. "He said, 'you are beautiful'. I told him 'beautiful' is a lazy and lousy way to describe me."

10. "The strongest actions for a woman is to love herself. Be herself and shine amongst those who never believed she could."

11. "She remembered who she was and the game changed." - Lalah Deliah

12. "Put on your war paint."

13. "I'm going to do what I want to do. I'm going to be who I really am. I'm going to figure out what that is." - Emma Watson

14. "You can never be overdressed or overeducated"

15. "A strong woman looks a challenge in the eye and gives it a wink." - Gina Carey

16. "A strong woman stands up for herself. A stronger woman stands up for others."

17. "You can find me somewhere in between inspiring others, working on myself, dodging negativity, and slaying my goals."

18. "Be good to her, she's rare." -r.h Sin

19. "Out dream yourself"

20. "You are a bright, beautiful goddess."

21. "Be a girl with a mind, a woman with attitude, and a lady with class."

22. "We all move forward when we recognize how resilient and striking the women around us are" - rupi kaur

23. "She's got that whole purpose driven warrior princess save the world type vibe"

And remember, you're beautiful. Show 2018 what you're made of!

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This Year, I Will Stop Worrying About Situations That Have Not Happened

Worrying about every negative outcome is a dreadful way of protecting yourself.


I remember crying in the airport, ridiculously anxious and scared of a horrible situation that had not even happened, for one instance. I typically make myself sick over the fear of a bad outcome in the future, but this toxic way of thinking is no way to live a healthy life.

In short, it is anxiety, but instead of just classifying it as anxiety, I have found that most of the times I am upset or worried is when I am depicting a horrible outcome in my head of what life could spin in to. It is my way of protecting myself, thinking of every upsetting scenario and going through the ways of how I will handle it in my head prior to it happening. It can sound somewhat logical, but my mind got carried away with it.

It didn't end up being a thought-out method with plans of reaction for negative outcomes, I would end up worrying about things so bizarre and so unlikely to happen and it would completely consume me. It robbed me of happiness. Worrying about unreal and unlikely situations sent me into spirals of crying and anxiety, and not for any real or plausible reason. I would spend the whole day staring at the wall, unable to speak to anyone because my worry was so consuming, or finally meet my breaking point and just erupt in tears and have to explain to the people around me that I am basically crying for no reason.

There is too much life to live to live every day by the lingering thought of "What if something bad happens?" I have too many good days ahead of me to be spent worrying, and a handful of bad ones that should not be made worse by worry or fear. Life is good, and it is almost frightening because it has been very good for a while, perhaps this is why my mind wants to prepare for the worst, as the daunting thought of things being "too good" comes into play.

Even when bad days come, and they will, I will handle them. I have noticed that when life is so hard, I get through it, and I look back thinking "Damn. How did I ever get through that?" I take pride in the fact that when bad days, situations, and periods of life do occur, I always, always handle them. But, in the meantime, I would like to savor my good days instead of worrying about not-yet-existent bad days.

So, this is a big step for me, but I am going to try and do this. I know it will bring peace to me, and a lot of people who surround me. This year, I will stop worrying about situations that have not happened.

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