No, this is not an article bashing the male race. No, this is not an article justifying dressing risque and expecting others to not look and/or react accordingly. Yes, compliments are wonderful! Passing on good vibes and positive energy are absolutely something the world needs more of. With this being said, I won't even address this message to a certain gender because, even if it is a lesser occurrence, it still does happen on both sides of the spectrum. Let me start out by asking a simple question. If a compliment makes you feel uncomfortable, is it really a compliment?
After watching these videos, let's create a metaphorical cycle. Before we do this let's establish some basic facts. We are human, we have impure thoughts. So, we have an impure thought about someone who happens to, in our opinion, look nice. We have that thought, but then we try to justify having that thought. Now that the impure thought has become "justifiable", we act outwardly on it. This outward action happens to develop either no response or an uncomfortable one. Because this reaction that has not met or exceeded expectations, we become defensive and offended. Then this is repeated over and over again. Chelsey Ng said it best, "I personally don't like knowing someone has looked me up and down and whistled at me or tried to comment on my body or what I'm wearing in a predatory manner like I'm a piece of meat. Or downright stalked me. This isn't a "compliment" to me, that's uncomfortable and scares me. Which is why I probably won't speak to you/will snap at you for making me feel unsafe. No one is saying that compliments are inherently bad, of course, it's lovely to get a compliment and yes we could all stand to compliment a stranger daily. What this video highlights is "compliments" that come from a negative and inappropriate place." Respectfully saying that you admire the way somebody looks versus using slang, sound effects, and other degrading things speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. You know the good old saying, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all! In simpler words, have some damn respect. Here's another video for a good laugh.
