Does anyone feel misunderstood or like no one understands the way your brain works? Do you feel like maybe you're having a breakdown from everything you have to do, but everyone around you is making it through with no problem?

First of all. It doesn't matter. None of it. What other people think. If anyone gets it. How well everyone else is doing in comparison. It's all crap. I mean, I hope other people around me are doing well. I don't wish negativity on anyone, but how well someone else is doing has nothing to do with me. It has nothing to do with you.

You are your own person. Plain and simple. You can compare yourself to others as much as you want, but at the end of the day, you're comparing kittens and rattlesnakes (you decide who is who in the scenario). The point is. Two super unlike things aren't going to produce the same results. Don't look around you to find the standard of measurement for how well you should be doing at what you do.

Know yourself. Do you need more sleep? Do you need more time to get things done? Does not sleeping make you freak out? Does socializing drain you? Do you not enjoy parties? Do you prefer one on one hanging out in big groups? Would you rather talk or watch a movie? Are you prone to anxiety or do certain things depress you?

Know your triggers. Know what works for you and what doesn't. Get rid of the picture in your head of how and what you think other people are doing or how you think your experiences should be. The biggest thing that screws us up in this life is idealizing life instead of learning to love reality. The thing is, none of us have lived this life before. No one has all of the answers. We're all freaking out and trying to find our own way.

So give yourself grace. Show yourself a little love. What I mean is, don't beat yourself up because your reality doesn't appear to be as successful as someone else's. The odds are, they think you have it easy too. Take care of your heart and your body. Don't let yourself get too anxious. Stop. Breathe. Relax. Be alone or with people who help you do that. Take a nap (within reason) if you need a nap. Do something that helps you chill out. Don't put off work if you know it's going to make you anxious.

But most of all. Don't say mean things to yourself. Say kind things. Write notes to remind yourself that you have worth. Try not to think about things that, in that moment, you can't help or control. If you have conflict, settle it as soon as possible because stress and anxiety have horrible physical effects on the body.

Don't do life alone. If you have a serious problem, seek help. If you think you may have a serious depression or anxiety disorder, don't try and handle it on your own. There's nothing wrong with going to a doctor and seeking out your best options to help you manage a chemical imbalance. Society may try and put stigmas on this type of self-care, but it's the most loving thing you can do for your body and for your emotions sometimes.

Stop. Breathe. Love yourself.