Getting Just The Right Amount Of Focus In Your Life

Getting Just The Right Amount Of Focus In Your Life

Should we have near-sighted focus or far-sighted focus?
"Your life is controlled by what you focus on."
-Tony Robbins

"Just focus." "Don't focus too much on that." "Adjust your focus." "Focus on what you want." That can be a scary reality. Getting the focus just right is difficult.

We hear these comments all the time yet, do we really know what that means for our lives? Should we have near-sighted focus or far-sighted focus? Do we focus on the pieces of the puzzle or the overall project itself? We hear contradictory words of advice. For instance, we are told to focus on the little things in life yet we should be seeing the big picture.

Have you ever tried to guess what something is with a close up photo? Or what about images changes based upon your viewing angle?

Can you see both the old and young lady?

With these images in mind, we can now visualize how perspective changes our focus. We can also see that nearsightedness and farsightedness can affect the way in which we perceive objects.

In life, it is very easy to get in a fixated frame of mind.

When situations in life do not go the way we may have desired or expected, we can become immersed in a negative state of mind. We view small modifications to our lives as big obstacles standing in the way of our happiness. Rather than choosing to notice how trials in life develop character, persistence, patience, and growth, we see how they affect us short-term.

We focus too significantly on the fact that our shoes are falling apart instead of realizing that they are worn due to the distances we have traveled. We see torn up soles rather than built up souls and worn down heels rather than how we have been healed.

In life's valleys, we choose nearsightedness. It is easier for us to set up camp rather than climb back up the mountain. We get stuck. Stuck in a narrow frame of mind. Stuck in a place with an open door of opportunity yet a closed mind of doubt.

Atop life's mountains, we face the other extreme. We see the big picture yet fail to acknowledge each step and tool that got us there. We stand at the top of those mountains with our hands up above our heads; congratulating ourselves for our big accomplishment. What about the sun that lit the way, the path that kept us on track, the wind that cooled us off when we felt as though we could not take another step, and the dirt beneath our feet that acted as a solid foundation in which to climb?

We are told to focus but are not told how.

We need to find balance. We need to be people of hope yet people of humility. Finding ways in which to be grateful in life's hardships and ways in which to be appreciative in life's successes and triumphs is hard and touchy.

This balance of nearsightedness and farsightedness, however, can give us perfect vision.

Cover Image Credit: KriGH

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Being Sick In College Is A Real Struggle

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Currently, I am sick now and the past few days haven't been easy, but I still attended all my classes so I wouldn't miss any material or assignments that were given. I usually end up feeling the worst at night when trying to fall asleep, and by that time the doctors are not present at the student health center. Even though my health is important I usually don't like taking too much time out of my day to go to the health center to see a doctor. Some days I don't really have much free time before the evening.

I don't believe I have been over-exerting myself, but I don't want to just stay in my bed all day and sleep, even though that may be what is best for me. Most professors will be understanding if I email them and provide them a doctor's note as well, but I also just got back from a conference where I had to miss two days of classes next week.

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Eating can also be a pain when you have a sore throat, for the past couple of days I have tried to have some soup in order to help. Most meals I would have to force myself to eat something of substance in order to give my body some type of energy in order to get through the day. It's also never fun not being able to breathe out of your nostrils. If it wasn't my nose being stuffed, then it would be constantly runny so there was no winning that battle.

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