Deep down, you know their investment in the relationship is unequal to yours. And deep down, you know that no one deserves a one-sided relationship. So what’s holding you back from letting go?
As if relationships weren’t tricky enough, you are faced with the tough decision of separating from someone who was or still is meaningful to you. History shows that it’s always when you least expect it that someone will enter your life and make you question everything about yourself. And sometimes you can’t imagine life without that person. But sometimes life without them is the better choice.
It's knowing when to let go that really matters. You always want to say you did all you could to fix things, but most of the time, you are not the problem. If the relationship is important enough, try and resolve what went wrong, but don’t be discouraged if they don’t put in the same effort as you. If anything, this should be a wake-up call for you to move on.
And if you are trying to ignore or make excuses for the person in question, just stop. They clearly don’t deserve your friendship and most certainly don’t deserve you defending them. What someone does to sustain a relationship should be interpreted through their actions and not their words.
How many times have you heard the phrase “I’m so sorry! I have to cancel, but I promise we’ll hang out soon!” or “I miss you. Let’s hang out!” and nothing ever happens? If someone truly wants to spend time with you, they will make the effort to do so, and if they constantly cancel last minute then they don’t value your time either. And if you are the one constantly planning get-togethers, your friends or significant other shouldn't make you feel like a bother for doing so. If you start to feel this way, you know something is unbalanced in your relationship.
Most importantly, remember that you are one of a kind and are entitled to have relationships with people who treat you like the special person you are. It's not your responsibility to make a relationship on your own, and doing so is just plain unfair.
As hard as it is, letting go from a one-sided relationship can be the best decision you will ever make. I know because I speak from experience. And to tell you the truth, a lot of the relationships I ended I discovered were emotionally and mentally unhealthy. I always thought something was wrong with me and that's why this person is distancing themselves from me. But in actuality, they were choosing to prioritize other matters before me.
Instead of feeling like you're just another daily annoyance, find the people who make you a better person and want to share the wonders of the world with you. It's time to be selfish for once and think of what you need.
