Let's face it, we all make mistakes. We're always so ready to point fingers at someone else rather than reluctantly turn them around to ourselves. You want to believe you live in a perfect world, never doing anything wrong because after all, you never had any intention of doing so. It’s so easy to get hurt in this life that we become consumed by our emotions. Everything we do is driven by how we feel. Something happens, and we react. Sometimes we overreact, and sometimes we owe an apology.
The thing is - it’s okay to be imperfect. It’s okay to overreact. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to wish you would’ve done something differently. It’s okay to admit you’re wrong. In fact, I believe that’s the first step to adulthood: realizing you’re not a perfect person and accepting that you’re a human composed of flaws just as everyone else is. Often times we fail to see our own reflection. We look in the mirror at least once a day but what do we really see? We see our outfits and if they match, our hair and decide if it needs to be tidied or not, we check for food in our teeth, and we decide we’re presentable enough for the day ahead of us. What we don’t see- what we need to see on a daily basis is our character. Yes, you look the part but are you acting the part as well? You need to do what I like to call, “self-check-ins." Ask yourself: how have I been feeling lately? Decide why you’ve been feeling that way and whether you need to change anything or not. Ask yourself: how have I been treating myself? Then follow up with: how have I been treating others? Decide if that person is who you want to be or if you’ve been a bit out of character. Ask yourself: is this my fault? It’s okay to say yes, and it’s also okay to say no. It’s not okay when you ignore the problem, and try to push all feelings aside. You’ll feel as if you’re carrying a heavy weight around, crushing your happiness. You’ll feel as if you’re drowning and can’t find the surface. You’ll feel as if you’re sinking deeper and deeper in quicksand just wishing you took a less treacherous route. The second you feel as if something is out of line, you need to do the scary thing and cross it. You need to take a step out of your comfort zone, out of your safety net, and take in the picture from a bigger perspective. You can’t get blindsided by your tunneling emotions. You need to remain focused and open-minded and flexible. You need to look down at your own hands and see if they’re dirty. Is this your mess to clean up? How are you going to put the pieces back together? Are you going to run or is it time to face the demons?
At the end of the day, it’s your life, and you’re the maker of decisions. You can choose to admit your wrongdoings or you can sit there and wonder why your life is taking the turn that it is. You can accept it and move on, or you can clear your conscience and make amends. Never forget you’re human too. After all, as a great physicist once said: to every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
