You may ask yourself all the time, "Is it me? Am I what is wrong?" When things take a turn for the worse with a guy they've been talking to recently, women begin to think they are the problem, but that is not true. Take it from someone with real-life, tragic boy experience.
You guys go on dates, he kisses your forehead, you guys have a deep connection and then all of the sudden, he sits you down one day and the words, "I think we should see other people" comes tumbling out of his mouth. You just sit there for a second because you're trying to process the words that just slapped you in the face. You're just so confused because you thought things were going so well. "Is it me?" You jut sit there for a minute staring down at your latte while he is awkwardly waiting for you to dump it all over him and then he says, "But we can still be friends." Now you definitely want to dump that latte all over him.
You picture yourself growing old with five French bulldogs because you're under the impression that you fall into the category of "undateable." What even makes someone undateable or not wife material? I don't even know because unfortunately, I am president of the undateable club. We see all of these happy girls in relationships and we ask ourselves, "Why can't that be me?" We watch movies like "The Notebook," "Pretty Woman," "Sixteen Candles" and we ask ourselves how can I find something like that? Where can I get that? Does that even exist in real life?
Well, yes, ladies it does if you find the right guy — but for now, you will settle with watching "Dirty Dancing" by yourself on a Saturday night, envisioning Patrick Swayze lifting you up in the air graciously. Then you snap back into reality and throw another bag of popcorn into the microwave.
Dating, in general, is exhausting but dating in college is like running across a road and getting hit by an airplane. One day you're sitting in a restaurant or in a park having a deep conversation with this guy that you've been talking to for months. And then the next day you find yourself texting your best friend telling her that you're going to grow old alone because all boys suck.
When someone kicks you to the curb, instead of asking, "Why?" or questioning your self-worth and value, you should just simply smile, hold back the tears and say goodbye. That person wasn't right for you. That person doesn't know exactly how amazing and awesome you are. They will be the one missing out, not you. Life is too short to be dumped and kicked to the curb over and over again. Sometimes you just have to sit on the curb, sip your latte and wait for Mr. Right. I'm sure he's not too far away from swooping you out of the undateable category.
