Many of you know that I am in a season of my life in which I am preparing myself to become a wife. This is the most exciting time and has been filled with so much joy. However, it also leads me to question what it truly means to be a wife. It has lead for me to question what God expects of me as a wife. I know one thing... God tells me to honor my husband. For many women, they think that honoring their husband in some way takes away their strength as a woman and makes them seem inferior to their husband. I have realized that it actually takes a lot of strength to honor somebody because it isn't always easy. However, I will honor my husband not because he is in any way superior to me. I will honor him because God has commanded me to and he is in every way superior to me.

Honoring my husband does not mean blindly letting him do whatever he wants without questioning any decision. If God wanted that for my life then he would have let out the brain he gave me. Also, Eve was taken from the rib of Adam and not the foot. She was made to stand beside him not be walked over by him. Honoring my husband happens in the way I talk about him, the way I use my social media, and the ways in which I allow others to talk about him.

When I am out with a group of girls and he is not around I am faced with an opportunity to either honor or dishonor my husband. Do I sit around and point out all of the ways in which he has fallen short this past week? Do I talk about the things I wish he would stop doing or the "honey- do" list I wish he would start on? Honoring him means talking about him in ways that show how much I love him. That reflect how blessed I am to do life with him even on the hardest days. I will be the first to say that this is not always easy. There are days to where he does stuff to irritate me and I don't want to talk about him in ways that show how much I love him. If honoring your husband was easy then everybody would do it everyday.

Am I honoring my husband in the ways that I use my social media? Am I hiding things or keeping secrets about who I am talking to ? Am I still using my social media to look at my friends fiancé/ husband and compare my husband to them? If I do not want my husband to do these things then I shouldn't do them either. They are dishonoring to him and will ultimately lead to issues in our own marriage. If we as fiancés and wives spent less time comparing our men to McDreamy on TV or some cute couple on Pinterest we would find that we are perfectly happy where we are. If I do not want my husband to hold me to the physical standards of models in magazines then why would I hold him to an unrealistic standard either?

I know some people who are married may be reading this thinking "just wait until you're actually married and then you'll see this isn't quite so simple". I agree with you 100%. Married life will be a season in which I have never been through and honoring him will in no way shape or form be easy. However, when I sign those papers and change my last name God's word does not change. God says, in Ephesians 5:33 "Let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly". I want my marriage to be blessed, I want my husband to be blessed, and I want my life to be blessed. So I will honor my husband. This is not to say that husbands get to do whatever they please because God is very explicit in saying that men should honor their wives and love them in ways which are pleasing to God.