10 Things To Do Instead of Giving Up

10 Things To Do Instead Of Giving Up

Simple reminders for when you feel like all else is lost.


Are you feeling down? Maybe you failed a test, maybe you didn't get a job you really wanted, or maybe you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. When life gets hectic, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, alone, and like you have nothing left to lose. Don't throw in the towel. Try these instead.

1. Pray 

In the midst of a tough situation, we are often told, "All you can do is pray."

All you can do??

Hearing this makes me wonder if people realize how powerful prayer is. It shouldn't be the last resort; it's your first resource.

Prayer brings peace, comfort, and direction.

2. There's a food out there that you're probably craving. Go eat it. 

Seriously. Calories don't matter as much as increased serotonin levels.

3. Has someone you know given you a compliment today? Write it down. 

It's easy to take something like, "I like your shirt," for granted. Don't. Write it down. Start a list of even the smallest compliments, and look at it the next time you're feeling unnoticed or unimportant.

4. Listen to that "perfect song."

Put in your headphones, connect to your speaker, or go for a drive and turn up the radio to max volume. Melodies are medicine for the mind.

5. Take a shower.

I know you might be tired. I know the process sounds like a chore. However, I also know you're going to feel so much better after the hot water washes over your skin, you wrap yourself in a warm and fluffy towel, and you put on your favorite lotion. Don't make it a chore; make it a treat.

6. Set aside 15 minutes for complete and utter rest.

No screens. No sounds. Just you, your pillow, and 15 minutes. Don't let your mind be occupied with to-do lists or anxieties. Let yourself rest.

7. Reach out to someone to catch up.

Have you been missing someone's presence in your life? Are you wondering how someone is doing? Instead of waiting for people to reach out to you, reach out to them instead. Go grab coffee, smoothies, or just simply go for a walk. Don't take community for granted--you'll be surprised how many other people feel the same way you do once you allow yourself to be vulnerable.

8. Cross something off your to-do list.

Do you just seem to be adding things to your schedule? Find something, anything, to accomplish. Crossing it off that list will give you so much relief. Then, after that, maybe you can check another thing (or two) off.

9. Take a deep breath.

Relax your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. Remove your tongue from the roof of your mouth. Breathe. Sometimes we hold stress in ways we don't even realize. Let yourself find peace. Concentrate on full, deep breaths, and watch how quickly you start to feel better.

10. Remember you've made it this far.

Every other time you've felt overwhelmed, you made it through. Every other time you've been knocked down, you got back up. You are so strong; you can do this.

You are not defined by a bad day, or two, or three. You are not defined by a poor grade, or a rejection letter, or a mistake you made. Don't give up. You've got this.

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From The Girl Who Skipped The Party Stage

Sorry, I am really not sorry that I'm skipping the party.

What's so wrong with skipping the party stage?

I can't count how many times I've been told I am missing out on the "best years of my life" because I'm not participating in stereotypical college party-girl behavior. I have even been told that I'll have a mid-life crisis because I am skipping this apparently crucial stage of life. Really? A freaking mid-life crisis? Because I'm skipping out on hooking up with strangers and being belligerently drunk every weekend?

Naturally, as a 19-year-old college student, my favorite pastime should be getting intoxicated. For some odd reason, though, I find it hard to believe that the best years of my life are supposed to be filled with moments that I won't remember.

Because my priorities lay in a different place than the stereotypical college kid doesn't by any means indicate that I am uptight, boring or a prude. Believe it or not, I get high on life just as much as you do on booze and weed.

Spending my time reading a good book with my morning coffee definitely tops a nasty hangover. Cuddling with my boyfriend of two years undoubtedly makes me happier than any one-night-stand ever could.

A successful girls' night for me is filled with hours of "Grey's Anatomy," ridiculous singing to Taylor Swift, and one-too-many slices of pizza — not dancing with girls that I barely know at a frat party.

Sorry, but if you're looking for someone to black out with and compliment your dress that is just too tight, I am not your girl. Want to have an actual discussion? Want to go to dinner, maybe even take a road trip? I am totes down for that.

When I look back on the best years of my life, I want my mind to be filled with memories that will bring a smile to my face — not a cringe.

Sorry, I am really not sorry that I'm skipping the party.

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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