Suffering from a physical injury can take a toll on your life. Whether it be a broken bone, a herniated disc or any type of surgery, the stress can begin to add up. It only becomes worse when people begin to “question you” or “pity you” by showering you with a load of lies. Dealing with these people can be the worst part of the injured experience. Speaking as someone who is currently going through some physical health issues, I’d like to let you know what we’re actually thinking when you try to be the voice of reason and offer help.
"So how did you even get hurt?"
It could have been anything. We obviously couldn’t tell you at what exact moment in time the pain began so how would I know? It could be genetic for all we know. When we don’t give you an exact answer or we tell you it’s just your general “wear and tear” kind of injury, please just leave it at that. Don’t question whether or not we are lying. We either don’t want to talk about or (nine times out of 10) don’t actually know the cause.
"How do we know you’re not faking it?"
Would you like to see the medical bills and countless doctor’s appointments? If you’re questioning our health, surely you’d like to volunteer your time to drive to the appointments and meetings and pay for the prescriptions and tests. All these appointments and tests cost loads of money, but maybe after two weeks of shelling out money you’ll begin to notice the injury isn’t fake. We don’t willingly waste our money on something we don’t want.
"Just get up and move! You’ll feel better!"
Wow! I managed to stand up. Guess I’m cured.
"Isn’t there any medicine you could be taking?"
Medicine does not work on the spot. It could take weeks or even months to begin working. After it begins working, it still takes time. You can’t fix a torn-down building in a day. Time is needed to recreate a foundation and begin rebuilding!
"If you’re taking medicine, then why don’t you feel better?"
Oh, I forgot medicine works instantly.
"I’m sure you’re just overreacting."
Is that an open invitation to punch you and see if you cry? I know you wouldn’t because than you’d be overreacting.
"Can you move any slower?"
Hello!
"I’m here if you need anything."
Could you prove this? I’d rather someone just do something for me rather than asking. Grab my medicine from the top drawer when I need to take it. Make a snack for me to eat on the go when I have multiple appointments a day. It’s not about what you say. Actions speak louder than words.
"Well, I guess everything happens for a reason."
Is this my cue to punch you now?
"Why aren’t you happy? You won’t be hurt forever."
I know, but this is taking a toll on my mentality as well. Not being able to move or do anything for myself is frustrating, and it’s obviously upsetting. I can’t walk or move without guidance, and that makes me extremely upset. I know this injury is only temporary, but it’s ruining my life for the time being.
"I know exactly how you feel."
I know you’re just trying to help. Please don’t.
"People have it way worse than you!"
Again, just don’t.
"Feel better!"
We do appreciate these! It won't be instant, but we’re trying our hardest!
