Dating has changed a lot over the decades. The only difference is that in today's time, there's no such thing as "dating" anymore. Instead, there are days, weeks, and maybe a couple of months of just "hanging out," and I'm sick of it.
These days, guys don't ask girls on dates anymore. Here's how it pans out:
You get a friend request from this somewhat attractive guy, and you accept it not really thinking anything else about it. Then one day as you're scrolling through your newsfeed, you get a message. He says, "Hey!!!!" You contemplate replying until finally deciding on a simple, "Hey." Then he asks you what's up, and you respond with, "Nothing much, you?" You know how that conversation goes. Pretty soon out of nowhere you get a, "We should hang out sometime."
WE SHOULD HANG OUT SOMETIME.
Not go on a date, but hangout. I know what that means, and I'm not interested. You see, I still long for old-fashioned dating where the guy asks you on a date, he picks you up dressed as if he's going on a date and not to Walmart, then the two of you go wherever you're going and you talk and get to know one another. Then afterward he takes you home and tells you goodnight without expecting an invite into your home and sanctuary. But, that's wishful thinking, right?
Unfortunately.
We should hang out.
Guys, do you not realize how much those four little words devalue the possibility of a relationship? Do you not realize how much those four little words tell a girl how much she means to you? And what on Earth gave you the idea that that was all she wanted?
If you just want to hook up, let her know from the get go that way she doesn't waste her valuable time on the excitement of meeting someone new. If you want to take her on a date, then ask her on a date like a real man. If money is what you're worried about, then take her somewhere that won't cost any money like the park, or hiking, or whatever else you can think of. Finding out her hobbies and interests instead of how many partners, if any, that she's been with is a much better alternative to nailing the first date.
I have literally had it with all these little boys that don't know what they want, or how to treat a woman. So if just "hanging out" is all your intentions are, then please don't bother me. I have too much going for me to waste my precious time on you. You see, I want to get married someday. I want to find someone that will value me for who I am, and not what my body looks like. I want someone that will treat me with the respect that I deserve. Until I find him, I refuse to ever settle again. And for everything in me, I refuse to just "hang out."
