I’m not good enough. I’ll never catch their attention. I’ll never be the one they are thinking about. I’ll never be the one in their dreams.
I’ll never be the one to sweep them off their feet. I’ll never be the one to go out with them. I’ll never be the one to be their other half.
I’ll never be the one they will fall in love with. I’ll never be the one at the other end of the aisle. I’ll never be the one they love till death do us part.
It’s something inside of me, something that I don’t quite see. There’s a part of me, holding me back, making me inferior to everyone else.
Is it how I look? Am I too fat? Am I not hitting the gym enough? Is my hairstyle awful? Is it my face? Everyone must see that one scar… or my stretchmarks. Perhaps my torso is too long, and my legs too short.
No, it must be my personality. Am I too outgoing? Am I not outgoing enough? Is it my cursed Resting Bitch Face? Am I not funny enough? Am I not sporty enough? It must be my lack of emotion… how I try not to tell the world how I am feeling every second of the day.
Or is that it? Is it how I feel? My sadness, my pain, my depression. My nervousness, my panic attacks, my anxiety. My loneliness, my disconnect, my isolation from the world. But it cannot be my emotions. I feel all of those things because I know that I am not good enough.
So what is it? What is it that I am doing wrong? Why am I never going to be good enough?
It is exactly that. It is questioning yourself. It is feeling inferior. It is telling yourself that you aren’t good enough.
You look original. You act unique. You deserve to feel extraordinary. You are good enough.
If your first semester in school didn’t go as well as you hoped, just try harder. You can do it. If you didn’t get that job, don’t worry. There are plenty more opportunities coming your way. If the one you care about doesn’t notice you, it is okay. They weren’t the right one for you.
It is perfectly normal and okay to have those days where you feel a little more down than usual, or where the stress of the entire world seems to be pushing you down, or where you’re ready to just give up.
What is not okay, is to think there is something wrong with you, to question what part of you is holding you back, to tell yourself the biggest lie everyday—that you are not good enough.
When you start, continue, or end your day with the toxic thoughts of not being good enough, you are creating your own hardest feeling to overcome, but you will overcome it.
Start your day with a wink, kiss and compliment to yourself in the mirror. You look good enough. You are good enough.
Continue your day with positive thoughts, encouraging sticky notes, and patting yourself on the back after an accomplishment. You are doing good enough. You are good enough.
Finally, end your day reflecting on what it is about you that you love. Whether it’s your artistic talents, secret shower singing skills, or great sense in style, whoever you are, you are awesome. You are good enough.
