I have been with my boyfriend for three years. There are many times people ask me, "do you think you two would ever break up?" and I've thought long enough about it where I once tried to envision a world where we did, and I know that the circumstances had to be extreme in order for that to happen.

We have come so far in our relationship that breaking up for any other reason that isn’t huge seems ridiculous to me. We have put in a tremendous amount of effort to get the two of us on the same page, and now that we finally are I can’t imagine somebody taking me to a whole new page for a reason that wasn’t over-the-top, dramatic, crazy, or out of this world.

If my boyfriend and I break up, you better believe it will be for a reason that’s worth more than the infamous, "growing apart." That isn’t an excuse in my book. We have given this relationship so much time that if we ever thought we were going to grow apart we would do everything we can to try and get back on the same track, and no I’m not saying it always works, but for him and me, that's something we promised ourselves long ago.

There are some things I believe cannot be solved with a lot of effort, time, and understanding. If my boyfriend cheats on me, lies to me, abuses me, or starts to mistreat me, then I definitely think it’s time to throw in the towel.

But none of those reasons are growing apart, so I'm actually okay with it...and no, I don’t find myself to be a drama queen, but in this particular case, I prefer the drama.

That is how sure I am of my relationship with my boyfriend, that it would take something very dramatic happening to the two of us for us to ever just call it quits.

You can put yourself in every scenario you want, but until you’ve been through both you start to see for yourself which one you prefer. I’ve had a boyfriend that has cheated, and I had a boyfriend that we grew apart. One was so much easier to let go of, while the other stung for quite a bit.

I find that when a dramatic break up happens, it’s 100% easier to wipe your hands clean of it, but when there are all these little questions and "what if's" you start to wonder if you made the right decision by leaving.

If my boyfriend lied to me, cheated on me, abused me-both mentally or physically, it would be so much easier to walk away. Yes, it would be one hell of a breakup, but the aftermath would be much easier to endure than it would if we had just grown apart.

There are too many things to still have left between you and a person when you just grow apart. You start to tell yourself that there may have been a future with them and it would’ve been better than what you have now. That ultimately takes a really long time to let go of. I know I don’t want that for myself again.

So yes, I would take a dramatic, Instant heartbreak over a drawn-out one any day of the week.

I know thinking about it, you don’t wish for your children to have to go through these dramatic breakups ever in their life. You think that maybe it would be better if they just took the safe route and grew apart with their future lovers, but that’s not what I want for my daughter, and I know that might sound strange..but as soon as someone cheats on you or leaves you with this god awful feeling of an abundance of insecurities, you start to look for a relationship that actually has a future, and that’s why it’s so easy for me to sit here and say that I prefer this over-dramatic ending vs anything other than that.

I stopped visualizing any other scenario because there is nothing that can happen to my boyfriend and me that growing apart will ever be a reason as to why something so great ended. I promise you that.

Maybe it’ll take something great to come along for you, for you to want the same thing. I’m not saying I wouldn’t be hurt if my boyfriend cheated on me, and I’m not saying it wouldn't take every ounce of strength to get over him lying to me, but there is no question on whether or not I’d stay with him because I wouldn’t.

Growing apart is harder because you have to ask yourself one million times if this is the right thing, and even for a split second if you think it is you never stop asking yourself until you meet someone that confirms your questions...so I’ll stick with my answer.

Bring on the over-dramatic break up because we're not growing apart anytime soon.